Eugenia Kuyda: Friendship with an AI Companion
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The following is a conversation with Eugenia Koida,
co-founder of Replica, which is an app that allows you
to make friends with an artificial intelligence system,
a chatbot that learns to connect with you on an emotional,
you could even say a human level, by being a friend.
For those of you who know my interest in AI
and views on life in general,
know that Replica and Eugenia's line of work
is near and dear to my heart.
The origin story of Replica is grounded
in a personal tragedy of Eugenia losing her close friend,
Roman Mazurenki, who was killed crossing the street
by a hit and run driver in late 2015.
He was 34.
The app started as a way to grieve the loss of a friend
by training a chatbot neural net on text messages
between Eugenia and Roman.
The rest is a beautiful human story
as we talk about with Eugenia.
When a friend mentioned Eugenia's work to me,
I knew I had to meet her and talk to her.
I felt before, during, and after that this meeting
would be an important one in my life, and it was.
I think in ways that only time will truly show,
to me and others.
She's a kind and brilliant person.
It was an honor and a pleasure to talk to her.
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I'm not yet sure where that passion will take me,
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With a bit of hard work and a bit of luck,
I hope I'll succeed in helping build AI systems
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But also, it is entirely possible that I am, in fact,
one of the chatbots that Eugenia
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And this podcast is simply a training process
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And now here's my conversation with Eugenia Kuida.
Okay, before we talk about AI
and the amazing work you're doing,
let me ask you ridiculously, we're both Russian,
so let me ask you a ridiculously romanticized
Russian question.
Do you think human beings are alone,
like fundamentally on a philosophical level?
Like in our existence, when we like go through life,
do you think just the nature of our life is loneliness?
- Yeah, so we have to read Dostoyevsky at school,
as you probably know.
- In Russian?
- Yeah, I mean, it's part of the school program.
So I guess if you read that,
then you sort of have to believe that.
You're made to believe that you're fundamentally alone
and that's how you live your life.
- How do you think about it?
You have a lot of friends, but at the end of the day,
do you have like a longing for connection with other people?
That's maybe another way of asking it.
Do you think that's ever fully satisfied?
- I think we are fundamentally alone.
We're born alone, we die alone,
but I view my whole life as trying to get away from that,
trying to not feel lonely.
And again, we're talking about subjective
way of feeling alone.
It doesn't necessarily mean
that you don't have any connections
or you are actually isolated.
- You think it's a subjective thing,
but like, again, another absurd measurement-wise thing,
how much loneliness do you think there is in the world?
So like, if you see loneliness as a condition,
how much of it is there?
What do you think?
Like how, I guess how many,
there's all kinds of studies and measures
of how many people in the world feel alone.
There's all these like measures of how many people
are self-report or just all these kinds
of different measures, but in your own perspective,
how big of a problem do you think it is size-wise?
- Well, I'm actually fascinated by the topic of loneliness.
I try to read about it as much as I can.
What really, and I think there's a paradox
'cause loneliness is not a clinical disorder.
It's not something that you can get your insurance
to pay for if you're struggling with that.
Yet it's actually proven and pretty,
tons of papers, tons of research around that.
It is proven that it's correlated
with earlier life expectancy, shorter lifespan.
And it is in a way like right now,
what scientists would say that it's a little bit worse
than being obese or not actually doing
any physical activity in your life.
- In terms of the impact on your health.
- In terms of impact on your physiological health, yeah.
So it's basically puts you,
if you're constantly feeling lonely,
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your body responds like it's basically
all the time under stress.
So it's always in this alert state.
And so it's really bad for you
because it actually like drops your immune system
and your response to inflammation is quite different.
So all the cardiovascular diseases
actually responds to viruses.
So it's much easier to catch a virus.
- That's sad now that we're living in a pandemic
and it's probably making us a lot more alone
and it's probably weakening the immune system,
making us more susceptible to the virus.
It's kind of sad.
- Yeah, the statistics are pretty horrible around that.
So around 30% of all millennials report
that they're feeling lonely constantly.
- 30?
- 30% and then it's much worse for Gen Z.
And then 20% of millennials say that they feel lonely
and they also don't have any close friends.
And then I think 25 or so,
and then 20% would say they don't even have acquaintances.
- And that's the United States?
- That's in the United States.
And I'm pretty sure that it's much worse everywhere else.
Like in the UK, I mean, it was widely tweeted
and posted when they were talking about
a minister of loneliness that they wanted to appoint
because four out of 10 people in UK feel lonely.
So I think we don't--
- Minister of loneliness.
- I mean, I think that thing actually exists.
So yeah, you will die sooner if you are lonely.
And again, this is only when we're only talking
about your perception of loneliness or feeling lonely.
That is not objectively being fully socially isolated.
However, the combination of being fully socially isolated
and not having many connections and also feeling lonely,
that's pretty much a deadly combination.
So it strikes me bizarre or strange
that this is a wide known fact.
And then there's really no one working really on that
because it's subclinical.
It's not clinical.
It's not something that you can,
we'll tell you a doctor and get a treatment or something.
Yet it's killing us.
- Yeah, so there's a bunch of people trying to evaluate,
like try to measure the problem by looking at like
how social media is affecting loneliness
and all that kind of stuff.
So it's like measurement.
Like if you look at the field of psychology,
they're trying to measure the problem
and not that many people actually, but some.
But you're basically saying how many people
are trying to solve the problem.
Like how would you try to solve the problem of loneliness?
Like if you just stick to humans,
I mean, or basically not just the humans,
but the technology that connects us humans,
do you think there's a hope for that technology
to do the connection?
Like are you on social media much?
- Unfortunately.
- Do you find yourself like, again,
if you sort of introspect about how connected you feel
to other human beings, how not alone you feel,
do you think social media makes it better or worse?
Maybe for you personally or in general?
- I think it's easier to look at some stats.
And I mean, Gen Z seems to be, Generation Z
seems to be much lonelier than millennials
in terms of how they report loneliness.
They're definitely the most connected
generation in the world.
I mean, I still remember life without an iPhone,
without Facebook.
They don't know that that ever existed
or at least don't know how it was.
So that tells me a little bit about the fact
that that might be, you know, this hyperconnected world
might actually make people feel lonelier.
I don't know exactly what the measurements are around that,
but I would say, you know, in my personal experience,
I think it does make you feel a lot lonelier.
Mostly, yeah, we're all super connected,
but I think loneliness, the feeling of loneliness
doesn't come from not having any social connections
whatsoever.
Again, in terms of people that are in long-term
relationships experience bouts of loneliness
and continued loneliness.
And it's more the question about the true connection,
about actually being deeply seen, deeply understood.
And in a way, it's also about your relationship
with yourself.
Like in order to not feel lonely,
you actually need to have a better relationship
and feel more connected to yourself.
Then this feeling actually starts to go away a little bit.
And then you open up yourself to actually meeting
other people in a very special way,
not in just, you know, add a friend on Facebook kind of way.
- So just to briefly touch on it, I mean,
do you think it's possible to form that kind of connection
with AI systems?
More down the line of some of your work,
do you think that's engineering-wise a possibility
to alleviate loneliness is not with another human,
but with an AI system?
- Well, I know that's a fact.
That's what we're doing.
And we see it and we measure that.
And we see how people start to feel less lonely
talking to their virtual AI friend.
- So basically a chatbot at the basic level,
but could be more.
Like, do you have, I'm not even speaking sort of
about specifics, but do you have a hope?
Like if you look 50 years from now,
do you have a hope that there's just like AIs
that are like optimized for, let me first start,
like right now, the way people perceive AI,
which is recommender systems for Facebook and Twitter,
social media, they see AI as basically destroying,
first of all, the fabric of our civilization,
but second of all, making us more lonely.
Do you see like a world where it's possible
to just have AI systems floating about
that like make our life less lonely?
Yeah.
Make us happy?
Like are putting good things into the world
in terms of our individual lives?
- Yeah, I totally believe in that.
That's why I'm also working on that.
I think we need to also make sure
that what we're trying to optimize for,
we're actually measuring.
And it is an orthometric that we're going after.
And all of our product and all of our business models
are optimized for that.
Because you can talk, you know,
a lot of products that talk about, you know,
making you feel less lonely
or making you feel more connected,
they're not really measuring that.
So they don't really know whether their users
are actually feeling less lonely in the long run
or feeling more connected in the long run.
So I think it's really important to put your--
- To measure it.
- Yeah, to measure it.
- What's a good measurement of loneliness?
- Well, so that's something that I'm really interested in.
How do you measure that people are feeling better
or that they're feeling less lonely?
With loneliness, there's a scale.
There's a UCLA 20 and UCLA 3 recently scale,
which is basically a questionnaire that you fill out.
And you can see whether in the long run
it's improving or not.
- And that, does it capture the momentary
feeling of loneliness?
Does it look in like the past month?
Like, is it basically self-report?
Does it try to sneak up on you?
Try to trick you to answer honestly or something like that?
Well, what's, yeah, I'm not familiar with the question.
- It is just asking you a few questions,
like how often did you feel like lonely
or how often do you feel connected to other people
in this last few couple of weeks?
It's similar to the self-report questionnaires
for depression and anxiety, like PHQ-9 and GAT-7.
Of course, as any self-report questionnaires,
that's not necessarily very precise or very well measured.
But still, if you take a big enough population,
you get them through these questionnaires,
you can see a positive dynamic.
- And so you basically,
you put people through questionnaires to see,
like, is this thing, is what we're creating
making people happier?
- Yeah, we measure, so we measure two outcomes.
One short-term, right after the conversation,
we ask people whether this conversation
made them feel better, worse, or same.
This metric right now is at 80%,
so 80% of all our conversations make people feel better.
- But I should have done the questionnaire with you.
You feel a lot worse after we've done this conversation.
That's actually fascinating.
I should probably do that.
- But that's our-- - I should probably do that.
- You should totally start measuring.
- And aim for 80%.
- Aim to outperform your current state-of-the-art AI system
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in these human conversations.
So again, we'll get to your work with Replica,
but let me continue on the line of absurd questions.
So you talked about deep connection with other humans,
deep connection with AI, meaningful connection.
Let me ask about love.
People make fun of me 'cause I talk about love all the time,
but what do you think love is?
Like maybe in the context of a meaningful connection
with somebody else, do you draw a distinction
between love, like friendship, and Facebook friends?
Or is it a gradual-- - The answer is no.
(both laughing)
It's all the same.
- No, like is it just a gradual thing,
or is there something fundamental about us humans
that seek like a really deep connection
with another human being, and what is that?
What is love, Eugenia?
I just enjoy asking you these questions--
- I like that. - And seeing you struggle.
- I know, thanks.
Well, the way I see it, and specifically,
the way it relates to our work
and the way it inspired our work on "Replica,"
I think one of the biggest and the most precious gifts
we can give to each other now in 2020 as humans
is this gift of deep, empathetic understanding,
the feeling of being deeply seen.
- Like what does that mean, that you exist,
like somebody acknowledging that?
- Somebody seeing you for who you actually are,
and that's extremely, extremely rare.
I think that combined with unconditional positive regard,
belief, and trust that you internally are
always inclined for positive growth
and believing in you in this way,
letting you be a separate person at the same time,
and this deep, empathetic understanding,
for me, that's the combination
that really creates something special,
something that people, when they feel it once,
they will always long for it again,
and something that starts huge fundamental changes
in people when we see that someone accepts us so deeply.
We start to accept ourselves,
and the paradox is that's when big changes
start happening, big fundamental changes
in people start happening.
So I think that is the ultimate therapeutic relationship,
that is, and that might be, in some way,
the definition of love.
(laughing)
- So acknowledging that there's a separate person
and accepting you for who you are.
Now, on a slightly, and you mentioned therapeutic,
that sounds like a very healthy view of love,
but is there also, like,
if we look at heartbreak,
and most love songs are probably about heartbreak, right?
Is that, like, the mystery, the tension, the danger,
the fear of loss, you know, all of that,
what people might see in the negative light
as, like, games or whatever,
but just the dance of human interaction,
yeah, fear of loss, and fear of, like,
you said, like, once you feel it once,
you long for it again,
but you also, once you feel it once,
for many people, they've lost it,
so they fear losing it, they feel lost.
So is that part of it?
Like, you're speaking, like, beautifully
about, like, the positive things,
but is it important to be able to be afraid of losing it
from an engineering perspective?
(laughing)
- I mean, it's a huge part of it,
and unfortunately, we all, you know,
face it at some points in our lives.
I mean, I did.
- You wanna go into details?
How'd you get your heart broken?
- Sure.
Well, so mine is pretty straight,
my story's pretty straightforward there.
I did have a friend that was, you know,
that at some point in my 20s
became really, really close to me,
and we became really close friends.
Well, I grew up pretty lonely,
so in many ways, when I'm building, you know,
these AI friends, I'm thinking about myself
when I was 17, writing horrible poetry,
and, you know, in my dial-up modem at home,
and, you know, and that was the feeling
that I grew up with.
I lived alone for a long time when I was a teenager.
- Where did you grow up?
- In Moscow, on the outskirts of Moscow.
So I'd just skateboard during the day
and come back home and, you know,
connect to the internet.
- And write poetry.
- And then write horrible poetry.
- Was it love poems?
- All sorts of poems, obviously love poems.
I mean, what other poetry can you write when you're 17?
- It could be political or something, but yeah.
- But that was, you know, that was kind of my,
yeah, like deeply influenced by Joseph Brodsky
and like all sorts of poets that
every 17-year-old will be looking,
you know, looking at and reading.
But yeah, that was my, these were my teenage years,
and I just never had a person that I thought
would, you know, take me as it is,
would accept me the way I am.
And I just thought, you know, working and just doing my thing
and being angry at the world and being a reporter,
I was an investigative reporter working undercover
and writing about people was my way to connect with,
you know, with others.
I was deeply curious about everyone else.
And I thought that, you know, if I go out there,
if I write their stories, that means I'm more connected.
- This is what this podcast is about, by the way.
I'm desperate, alone, seeking connection.
I'm just kidding, or am I?
I don't know.
So wait, reporter,
how did that make you feel more connected?
I mean, you're still fundamentally pretty alone.
- But you're always with other people, you know,
you're always thinking about what other place
can I infiltrate, what other community can I write about,
what other phenomenon can I explore?
And you're sort of like a trickster, you know,
and a mythological creature
that's just jumping between all sorts of different worlds
and feel sort of okay in all of them.
So that was my dream job, by the way.
That was like totally what I would have been doing
if Russia was a different place.
- And a little bit undercover.
So like you were trying to, like you said,
mythological creature trying to infiltrate.
So try to be a part of the world.
What are we talking about?
What kind of things did you enjoy writing about?
- I'd go work at a strip club or go.
- Awesome, okay.
- Well, I'd go work at a restaurant
or just go write about certain phenomenons
or phenomenons of people in the city.
- And what, sorry to keep interrupting.
I'm the worst conversationalist.
What stage of Russia is this?
What, is this pre-Putin, post-Putin?
What was Russia like?
- Pre-Putin is really long ago.
This is Putin era.
That's beginning of 2000s, 2010, 2007, eight, nine, 10.
- What were strip clubs like in Russia
and restaurants and culture and people's minds
like in that early Russia that you were covering?
- In those early 2000s,
there was still a lot of hope.
There were still tons of hope that,
we're sort of becoming this Westernized society.
The restaurants were opening.
We were really looking at,
we're trying to copy a lot of things from the US,
from Europe, bringing all these things in,
very enthusiastic about that.
So there was a lot of stuff going on.
There was a lot of hope and dream
for this new Moscow that would be similar to,
I guess, New York.
I mean, just to give you an idea,
in year 2000 was the year when
we had two movie theaters in Moscow
and there was this one first coffee house that opened
and it was like really big deal.
By 2010, there were all sorts of things everywhere.
- Almost like a Starbucks type of coffee house
or like you mean?
- Oh yeah, like a Starbucks.
I mean, I remember we were reporting on,
we were writing about the opening of Starbucks,
I think in 2007.
That was one of the biggest things that happened
in Moscow back in the time.
That was worthy of a magazine cover
and that was definitely the biggest talk of the town.
- Yeah, when was McDonald's?
'Cause I was still in Russia when McDonald's opened.
That was in the '90s.
I mean, yeah.
- Oh yeah, I remember that very well.
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- Yeah.
- Those were long, long lines.
I think it was 1993 or '94, I don't remember.
- Did you go to McDonald's at that time?
Did you do the--
- I mean, that was a luxurious outing.
That was definitely not something you do every day.
And also the line was at least three hours.
So if you're going to McDonald's, that is not fast food.
That is like at least three hours in line.
And then no one is trying to eat fast after that.
Everyone is like trying to enjoy as much as possible.
- What's your memory of that?
- Oh, it was insane.
- Positive?
- Extremely positive.
It's a small strawberry milkshake and a hamburger
and small fries and my mom's there.
And sometimes I'll just, 'cause I was really little,
they'll just let me run up the cashier and cut the line,
which is, you cannot really do that in Russia.
- So for a lot of people,
a lot of those experiences might seem not very fulfilling.
It's on the verge of poverty, I suppose.
But do you remember all that time fondly?
Like, 'cause I do, like the first time I drank, you know,
Coke, you know, all that stuff, right?
And just, yeah, the connection
with other human beings in Russia,
I remember really positively.
Like, how do you remember, well, the '90s
and then the Russia you were covering,
just the human connections you had with people
and the experiences?
- Well, my parents were both physicists.
My grandparents were both, well, my grandfather
was a nuclear physicist, a professor at the university.
My dad worked at Chernobyl when I was born in Chernobyl,
analyzing kind of everything after the explosion.
And then I remember that,
and so they were making sort of enough money
in the Soviet Union,
so they were not, you know, extremely poor or anything.
It was pretty prestigious to be a professor,
the dean in the university.
And then I remember my grandfather
started making $100 a month after, you know, in the '90s.
So then I remember we started,
our main line of work would be to go
to our little tiny country house,
get a lot of apples there from apple trees,
bring them back to the city and sell them in the street.
So me and my nuclear physicist grandfather
were just standing there and he'd selling those apples
the whole day, 'cause that would make you more money
than, you know, working at the university.
And then he'll just tell me, try to teach me, you know,
something about planets and whatever,
the particles and stuff.
And, you know, I'm not smart at all,
so I could never understand anything,
but I was interested as a, you know,
journalist kind of type interested.
But that was my memory.
And, you know, I'm happy that I wasn't,
I somehow got spared, that I was probably too young
to remember any of the traumatic stuff.
So the only thing I really remember,
I had this bootleg, that was very traumatic,
had this bootleg Nintendo,
which was called Dandy in Russia.
So in 1993, there was nothing to eat.
Like, even if you had any money, you would go to the store
and there was no food.
I don't know if you remember that.
And our friend had a restaurant, like a government,
half government owned something restaurant.
So they always had supplies.
So he exchanged a big bag of wheat for this Nintendo,
the bootleg Nintendo.
And that I remember very fondly,
'cause I think I was nine or something like that,
and, or seven. - Why is that traumatic?
- Well, 'cause we just got it and I was playing it
and there was this, you know, Dandy TV show.
- Yeah.
So traumatic in a positive sense, you mean,
like a definitive?
- Well, they took it away
and gave me a bag of wheat instead.
And I cried like my eyes out for days and days and days.
- Oh no.
- And then, you know, as a,
and my dad said, "We're gonna like exchange it back
"in a little bit, so you keep the little gun."
You know, the one that you shoot the ducks with?
So I'm like, "Okay, I'm keeping the gun.
"So sometime it's gonna come back."
But then they exchanged the gun as well
for some sugar or something.
(laughing)
I was so pissed.
I was like, I didn't wanna eat for days after that.
I'm like, "I don't want your food.
"I'm keeping my Nintendo back."
(laughing)
So that was extremely traumatic.
But, you know, I was happy
that that was my only traumatic experience.
You know, my dad had to actually go to Chernobyl
with a bunch of 20-year-olds.
He was 20 when he went to Chernobyl.
And that was right after the explosion.
No one knew anything.
The whole crew he went with, all of them are dead now.
I think there was this one guy still,
that was still alive for this last few years.
I think he died a few years ago now.
My dad somehow luckily got back earlier than everyone else.
But just the fact that that was the,
and I was always like, "Well, how did they send you?"
I was only, I was just born.
You know, you had a newborn.
Talk about paternity leave.
They were like, "But that's who they took
"'cause they didn't know whether you would be able
"to have kids when you come back."
So they took the ones with kids.
So he came with some guys, went to,
and I'm just thinking of me when I was 20.
I was so sheltered from any problems whatsoever in life.
And my dad, his 21st birthday at the reactor,
you work three hours a day, you sleep the rest.
And yeah, so I played with a lot of toys from Chernobyl.
- What are your memories of Chernobyl in general?
Like the bigger context, you know,
because of that HBO show,
the world's attention turned to it once again.
Like what are your thoughts about Chernobyl?
Did Russia screw that one up?
Like, you know, there's probably a lot of lessons
about our modern times with data about coronavirus
and all that kind of stuff.
It seems like there's a lot of misinformation.
There's a lot of people kind of trying to hide
whether they screwed something up or not.
As it's very understandable, it's very human,
very wrong probably.
But obviously Russia was probably trying to hide
that they screwed things up.
Like what are your thoughts about that time,
personal and general?
- I mean, I was born when the explosion happened.
So actually a few months after.
So of course I don't remember anything apart from the fact
that my dad would bring me tiny toys,
plastic things that would just go crazy,
haywire when you put the Gager thing to it.
My mom was like just nuclear about that.
She was like, "What are you bringing?
"You should not do that."
- She was nuclear, very nice.
- Absolutely. - Well done.
- I'm sorry for that.
Well, but yeah, but the TV show was just phenomenal.
- HBO one?
- Yeah, it's definitely, first of all,
it's incredible how that was made,
not by the Russians, but someone else,
but capturing so well everything about our country.
It felt a lot more genuine
than most of the movies and TV shows
that are made now in Russia, just so much more genuine.
And most of my friends in Russia
were just in complete awe about the show.
But I think the-- - How good of a job they did.
- My God, phenomenal.
- But also-- - The apartments,
there's something, yeah.
- The set design. - Yes.
- I mean, Russians can't do that.
But you see everything and it's like,
well, that's exactly how it was.
- It's so, I don't know, that show,
I don't know what to think about that
'cause it's British accents, British actors.
Of a person, I forgot who created the show,
but I remember reading about him and he's not,
he doesn't even feel like,
like there's no Russia in his history.
- No, he did like "Superbad" or some other show,
or like, I don't know.
- Yeah, like, exactly.
- Whatever that thing about the bachelor party in Vegas,
number four and five or something
were the ones that he worked on.
- Yeah, but so he, it made me feel really sad
for some reason that if a person,
obviously a genius could go in and just study
and just be extreme attention to detail,
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they can do a good job.
It made me think like,
why don't other people do a good job with this?
Like about Russia, like there's so little about Russia.
There's so few good films about
the Russian side of World War II.
I mean, there's so much interesting evil
and not, and beautiful moments in the history
of the 20th century in Russia
that it feels like there's not many good films on
from the Russians.
You would expect something from the Russians.
- Well, they keep making these propaganda movies now.
- Oh no.
- Unfortunately, but yeah, no,
"Chernobyl" was such a perfect TV show.
I think capturing really well,
it's not about like even the set design,
which was phenomenal,
but just capturing all the problems that exist now
with the country and focusing on the right things.
Like if you build the whole country on a lie,
that's what's gonna happen.
And that's just this very simple kind of thing.
- Yeah, and did you have your dad talked about it to you?
Like his thoughts on the experience?
- He never talks.
He's this kind of Russian man that just,
my husband who's American,
and he asked him a few times,
Igor, how did you, but why did you say yes?
Or like, why did you decide to go?
You could have said no, not go to "Chernobyl."
Why would like a person,
that's what you do.
You cannot say no.
- Yeah, yeah.
- It's just, it's like a Russian way.
- It's the Russian way.
- Men don't talk that much.
- No.
- There are downsides and upsides for that.
- Yeah, that's the truth.
Okay, so back to post-Putin Russia.
Or maybe we skipped a few steps along the way,
but you were trying to be a journalist in that time.
What was Russia like at that time?
Post, you said 2007 Starbucks type of thing.
What else was Russia like then?
- I think there was just hope.
There was this big hope that we're gonna be friends
with the United States,
and we're gonna be friends with Europe,
and we're just gonna be also a country like those
with bike lanes and parks,
and everything's gonna be urbanized.
And again, we're talking about '90s
where people would be shot in the street.
And that was, I sort of have a fond memory
of going into a movie theater
and coming out of it after the movie,
and the guy that I saw on the stairs was like,
neither shot, which was, again,
it was like a thing in the '90s.
That would be happening.
People were getting shot here and there.
- Just violence.
- Tons of violence, tons of just basically mafia mobs
in the streets.
And then the 2000s were like,
things just got cleaned up, oil went up,
and the country started getting a little bit richer.
The '90s were so grim,
mostly because the economy was in shambles
and oil prices were not high,
so the country didn't have anything.
We defaulted in 1998,
and the money kept jumping back and forth.
First there were millions of rubbles,
then it got to thousands,
then it was one rubble was something,
then again to millions.
It was like crazy town.
- That was crazy.
- And then the 2000s were just these years
of stability in a way,
and the country getting a little bit richer
because of, again, oil and gas.
And we started to look at,
specifically in Moscow and St. Petersburg,
to look at other cities in Europe and New York and US,
and trying to do the same
in our small kind of cities, towns there.
- What were your thoughts of Putin at the time?
- Well, in the beginning he was really positive.
Everyone was very positive about Putin.
He was young, he was very energetic.
He also immediately-- - Hansel?
The shirtless?
- Well, somewhat compared to,
well, that was not, like, way before the shirtless era.
- The shirtless era.
Okay, so he didn't start off shirtless.
When did the shirtless era,
it's like the propaganda of riding a horse, fishing.
- 2010, 11, 12.
- Yeah.
That's my favorite.
You know, like people talk about the favorite Beatles,
like the, I don't know.
That's my favorite Putin, is the shirtless Putin.
- No, I remember very, very clearly 1996
where Americans really helped Russia with elections
and Yeltsin got reelected.
Thankfully so, because there was a huge threat
that actually the communists will get back to power.
They were a lot more popular.
And then a lot of American experts, political experts,
and campaign experts descended on Moscow
and helped Yeltsin actually get the presidency,
the second term of the presidency.
But Yeltsin was not feeling great, you know,
by the end of his second term.
He was, you know, alcoholic, he was really old.
He was falling off, you know,
the stages where he was talking.
So people were looking for fresh,
I think for a fresh face,
for someone who's gonna continue Yeltsin's work,
but who's gonna be a lot more energetic
and a lot more active, young, efficient maybe.
So that's what we all saw in Putin back in the day.
I'd say that everyone,
absolutely everyone in Russia in early 2000s
who was not a communist would be,
yeah, Putin's great.
We have a lot of hopes for him.
- What are your thoughts,
and I promise we'll get back to,
first of all, your love story,
and second of all, AI,
but what are your thoughts about communism?
The 20th century, I apologize,
I'm reading the "Rise and Fall of the Third Reich."
- Oh my God.
- So I'm like really steeped into like World War II
and Stalin and Hitler and just these dramatic personalities
that brought so much evil to the world.
But it's also interesting to politically think
about these different systems and what they've led to.
And Russia is one of the sort of beacons of communism
in the 20th century.
What are your thoughts about communism?
Having experienced it as a political system?
- I mean, I have only experienced it a little bit,
but mostly through stories and through seeing my parents,
my grandparents who lived through that.
It was horrible.
It was just plain horrible.
It was just awful.
- You think there's something,
I mean, it sounds nice on paper.
- Maybe.
- So like the drawbacks of capitalism is that
eventually it's the point of like a slippery slope.
Eventually it creates,
the rich get richer.
It creates a disparity, like inequality of wealth inequality.
I guess it's hypothetical at this point,
but eventually capitalism leads to humongous inequality.
And that's, some people argue that
that's a source of unhappiness.
Is it's not like absolute wealth of people.
It's the fact that there's a lot of people
much richer than you.
There's a feeling of like,
that's where unhappiness can come from.
So the idea of communism, or at least sort of Marxism
is not allowing that kind of slippery slope.
But then you see the actual implementations of it
and stuff seems to go wrong very badly.
What do you think that is?
Why does it go wrong?
What is it about human nature?
If we look at Chernobyl,
those kinds of bureaucracies that were constructed,
is there something like,
do you think about this much of like why it goes wrong?
- Well, there's no one was really like,
it's not that everyone was equal.
Obviously the government and everyone close to that
were the bosses.
So it's not like fully, I guess.
- There's already inequality.
- This dream of equal life.
So then I guess the situation that we had,
the Russia had in the Soviet Union,
it was more, it's a bunch of really poor people
without any way to make any significant fortune
or build anything, living constant,
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under constant surveillance, surveillance from other people.
Like you can't even do anything
that's not fully approved by the dictatorship basically.
Otherwise your neighbor will write a letter
and you'll go to jail.
Absolute absence of actual law.
- Yeah.
- It's a constant state of fear.
You didn't own anything.
You couldn't go travel.
You couldn't read anything Western
or you couldn't make a career really,
unless you're working in the military complex.
Which is why most of the scientists were so well-regarded.
I come from, both my dad and my mom
come from families of scientists
and they were really well-regarded as you know, obviously.
- 'Cause the state wanted, I mean,
'cause there's a lot of value to them being well-regarded.
- Because they were developing things
that could be used in the military.
So that was very important.
That was the main investment.
But it was miserable.
It was miserable.
That's why a lot of Russians now live
in the state of constant PTSD.
That's why we want to buy, buy, buy, buy, buy.
Definitely, as soon as we have the opportunity,
we just got to it finally that we can own things.
I remember the time that we got our first yogurts
and that was the biggest deal in the world.
It was already in the '90s by the way.
- What was your favorite food
where it was like, "Whoa, this is possible."
- Oh, fruit, because we only had apples, bananas
and whatever, watermelons,
whatever people would grow in the Soviet Union.
So there were no pineapples or papaya or mango.
Like you've never seen those fruit things.
Like those were so ridiculously good.
And obviously you could not get any like strawberries
in winter or anything that's not seasonal.
So that was a really big deal,
seeing all these fruit things.
- Yeah, me too, actually.
I don't know.
I think I have a,
like I don't think I have too many demons
or like addictions or so on,
but I think I've developed an unhealthy relationship
with fruit that I still struggle with.
- Oh, you can get any type of fruit, right?
You can get like, also these weird fruit,
fruits like dragon fruit or something.
- All kinds of like different types of peaches.
Like cherries were killer for me.
I know you say like we had bananas and so on,
but I don't remember having the kind of banana.
Like when I first came to this country,
the amount of banana,
I like literally got fat on bananas.
(Bridget laughing)
Like the amount.
- Oh yeah, for sure.
- They're delicious.
And like cherries, the kind,
like just the quality of the food.
I was like, this is capitalism.
This is delicious.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, it's funny.
It's funny.
Yeah, like it's funny to read.
I don't know what to think of it.
It's funny to think how an idea
that's just written on paper,
when carried out amongst millions of people,
how that gets actually,
when it becomes reality,
what it actually looks like.
Sorry, but I've been studying Hitler a lot recently
and going through Mein Kampf.
He pretty much wrote out in Mein Kampf
everything he was gonna do.
Unfortunately, most leaders,
including Stalin, didn't read it.
But it's kind of terrifying and I don't know.
And amazing in some sense
that you can have some words on paper
and they can be brought to life
and they can either inspire the world
or they can destroy the world.
And yeah, there's a lot of lessons to study in history
that I think people don't study enough now.
One of the things I'm hoping with,
I've been practicing Russian a little bit.
I'm hoping to sort of find,
rediscover the beauty and the terror of Russian history
through this stupid podcast by talking to a few people.
So anyway, I just feel like so much was forgotten.
So much was forgotten.
I'll probably, I'm gonna try to convince myself
that you're a super busy and super important person.
Well, I'm gonna try to befriend you
to try to become a better Russian
'cause I feel like I'm a shitty Russian.
- Not that busy.
So I can totally be your Russian Sherpa.
- Yeah, but love.
You're talking about your early days
of being a little bit alone
and finding a connection with the world
through being a journalist.
Where did love come into that?
- I guess finding for the first time some friends.
It's very simple story.
Some friends that all of a sudden we,
I guess we were at the same place with our lives.
We're 25, 26, I guess.
And somehow remember, and we just got really close
and somehow remember this one day where,
it's one day in summer that we just stayed out,
outdoor the whole night and just talked.
And for some unknown reason,
it just felt for the first time that someone could,
see me for who I am.
And it just felt extremely, like extremely good.
And we fell asleep outside and just talking
and it was raining, it was beautiful, sunrise.
It's really cheesy, but at the same time,
we just became friends in a way that I've never been friends
with anyone else before.
And I do remember that before and after
that you sort of have this unconditional family sort of,
and it gives you tons of power.
It just basically gives you this tremendous power
to do things in your life and to change positively.
- You mean like-- - On many different levels.
- Power because you could be yourself.
- At least you know that somewhere you can be just yourself.
Like you don't need to pretend,
you don't need to be great at work or tell some story
or sell yourself in somewhere or another.
And so we became this really close friends.
And in a way I started a company 'cause he had a startup
and I felt like I kind of want to start up too.
And it felt really cool.
I don't know what I would really do,
but I felt like I would kind of need to start up.
- Okay, so that pulled you in to the startup world.
- Yeah, and then this closest friend of mine died.
We actually moved here to San Francisco together
and then we went back for a visa to Moscow
and we lived together, we're roommates.
And we came back and he got hit by a car
right in front of Kremlin, next to the river
and died the same day in the hospital.
- This is Roman?
- Mm-hmm.
- This is Roman.
And you've moved to America at that point?
- At that point I was living--
- What about him, what about Roman?
- Him too, he actually moved first.
So I was always sort of trying to do what he was doing.
So I didn't like that he was already here
and I was still in Moscow
and we weren't hanging out together all the time.
- Was he in San Francisco?
- Yeah, we were roommates.
- So he just visited Moscow for a little bit?
- We went back for our visas.
We had to get a stamp and our passport for our work visas
and the embassy was taking a little longer
so we stayed there for a couple weeks.
- What happened?
So how did he die?
- He was crossing the street
and the car was going really fast
and way over the speed limit
and just didn't stop on the pedestrian cross on the zebra
and just ran over him.
- When was this?
- It was in 2015 on 28th of November
so it was pretty long ago now.
But at the time I was 29
so for me it was the first kind of meaningful death
in my life.
I had both sets of grandparents at the time.
I didn't see anyone so close die
and death sort of existed but as a concept
but definitely not as something that would be
happening to us anytime soon.
And specifically our friends
'cause we were still in our 20s or early 30s
and it still felt like the whole life is,
you could still dream about ridiculous things.
So it was just really, really abrupt I'd say.
- What did it feel like to lose him?
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Like that feeling of loss.
You talked about the feeling of love, having power.
What is the feeling of loss feel like?
- Well in Buddhism there's this concept of samaya
where something really huge happens
and then you can see very clearly.
I think that was it.
Basically something changed me so much
in such a short period of time
that I could just see really clearly
what mattered or what not.
Well I definitely saw that whatever I was doing at work
didn't matter at all and some of the things.
And it was just this big realization,
this very, very clear vision of what life's about.
- You still miss him today?
- Yeah, for sure.
For sure.
It was just this constant,
I think he was really important for me and for our friends
for many different reasons.
And I think one of them,
being that we didn't just say goodbye to him
but we sort of said goodbye to our youth in a way.
It was like the end of an era
and on so many different levels.
The end of Moscow as we knew it,
the end of us living through our 20s
and kind of dreaming about the future.
- Do you remember last several conversations?
Is there moments with him that stick out
that will kind of haunt you?
And just when you think about him?
- Yeah, well his last year here in San Francisco
he was pretty depressed as his startup
was not going really anywhere.
And he wanted to do something else.
He wanted to build,
he played with a bunch of ideas
but the last one he had was around
building a startup around death.
So having, he applied to Y Combinator
with a video that I had on my computer.
And it was all about disrupting death,
thinking about new symmetries, more biologically.
Like things that could be better biologically for humans.
And at the same time having those digital avatars,
these kind of AI avatars that would store all the memory
about a person that he could interact with.
- What year was this?
- 2015.
Well right before his death.
So it was like a couple months before that
he recorded that video.
And so I found it on my computer
when it was in our living room.
He never got in but he was thinking about it a lot somehow.
- Does it have the digital avatar idea?
- Yeah.
- That's so interesting.
- Well he just says, well that's in his,
yeah, Depeche has this idea and he talks about
like I want to rethink how people grieve
and how people talk about death.
- Why was he interested in this?
- Maybe someone who's depressed
is like naturally inclined thinking about that.
But I just felt, you know, this year in San Francisco
we just had so much,
I was going through a hard time,
he was going through a hard time,
and we were definitely, I was trying to make him
just happy somehow, just make him feel better.
And it felt like, you know, this,
I don't know, I just felt like I was taking care
of him a lot.
And he almost started to feel better
and then that happened.
And I don't know, I just felt lonely again, I guess.
And that was, you know, coming back to San Francisco
in December, I helped organize the funeral,
helped his parents.
And then I came back here and it was a really
lonely apartment, a bunch of his clothes everywhere,
and Christmas time.
And I remember I had a board meeting with my investors
and I just couldn't talk about like,
had to pretend everything's okay
and, you know, just working on this company.
Yeah, it was definitely a very, very tough, tough time.
- Do you think about your own mortality?
You said, you know, we're young,
the possibility of doing all kinds of crazy things
is still out there, it's still before us,
but it can end any moment.
Do you think about your own ending at any moment?
- Unfortunately, I think about it way too much.
It's somehow after Roman, like every year after that,
I started losing people that I really love.
I lost my grandfather the next year.
You know, the person who would explain to me,
you know, what the universe is made of.
- While you're selling apples?
- While selling apples, and then I lost
another close friend of mine.
And it just made me very scared.
I have tons of fear about death.
That's what makes me not fall asleep oftentimes
and just go in loops.
And then as my therapist, you know, recommended me,
I open up some nice calming images
with a voiceover and it calms me down.
- Oh, for sleep?
- Yeah, I'm really scared of death.
This is a big, I definitely have tons of,
I guess some pretty big trauma about it
and I'm still working through.
- There's a philosopher, Ernest Becker,
who wrote a book, "The Nile of Death."
I'm not sure if you're familiar with any of those books.
There's in psychology a whole field
called terror management theory.
Sheldon, who's just done the podcast, he wrote the book.
He was the, we talked for four hours about death.
Fear of death.
But his whole idea is that, Ernest Becker,
I think I find this idea really compelling
is that everything human beings have created,
like our whole motivation in life
is to create, like escape death.
It's to try to construct an illusion
of that we're somehow immortal.
So everything around us, this room,
your startup, your dreams, all, everything you do
is a kind of creation of a brain,
unlike any other mammal or species,
is able to be cognizant of the fact that it ends for us.
I think, so there's the question of the meaning of life
that you look at what drives us, humans.
And when I read Ernest Becker
that I highly recommend people read,
is the first time I, it felt like this is the right thing
at the core.
Sheldon's work is called Warm at the Core.
So he's saying, I think it's William James,
he's quoting or whoever, is like the thing,
what is at the core of it all?
Sure, there's like love, you know,
Jesus might talk about like love
is at the core of everything.
I don't, you know, that's the open question.
What's at the, you know, it's turtles, turtles,
but it can't be turtles all the way down.
What's at the bottom?
And Ernest Becker says the fear of death.
And the way, in fact,
'cause you said therapist and calming images,
his whole idea is, you know,
we wanna bring that fear of death as close as possible
to the surface because it's, and like meditate on that
and use the clarity of vision that provides
to live a more fulfilling life,
to live a more honest life,
to discover, you know,
there's something about, you know,
being cognizant of the finiteness of it all
that might result in the most fulfilling life.
So that's the dual of what you're saying
'cause you kind of said it's like,
I unfortunately think about it too much.
It's a question whether it's good to think about it.
'Cause I've, again, I talk way too much about love
and probably death.
And when I ask people or friends,
which is why I probably don't have many friends,
are you afraid of death?
I think most people say they're not.
They're not, what they say they're afraid,
you know, it's kind of almost like they see death
as this kind of like a paper deadline or something
and they're afraid not to finish the paper before the paper,
like I'm afraid not to finish the goals I have,
but it feels like they're not actually realizing
that this thing ends, like really realizing,
like really thinking, as Nietzsche and all these philosophers
like thinking deeply about it.
Like the very thing that, you know,
like when you think deeply about something,
you can realize that you haven't actually thought about it.
Yeah, and when I think about death,
it's like, it can be, it's terrifying.
It feels like stepping outside into the cold
or it's freezing and then I have to like hurry back inside
or it's warm.
(laughs)
But like, I think there's something valuable
about stepping out there into the freezing cold.
- Most definitely.
When I talk to my mentor about it,
he always tells me, "Well, what dies?
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"There's nothing there that can die."
But I guess that requires-- - What do you mean?
- Well, in Buddhism, one of the concepts
that are really hard to grasp
and that people spend all their lives meditating on
would be anatta, which is the concept of non-self.
And kind of thinking that, you know,
if you're not your thoughts,
which you're obviously not your thoughts
'cause you can observe them and not your emotions
and not your body, then what is this?
And if you go really far, then finally you see that
there's not self, there's this concept of not self.
So once you get there, how can that actually die?
What is dying? (laughs)
- Right, you're just a bunch of molecules, stardust.
- But that is very advanced spiritual work for me.
- Does that help you sleep? - I'm definitely just,
definitely not.
Oh my God, no, I have, I think it's very, very useful.
It's just the fact that maybe being so afraid is not useful.
And mine is more, I'm just terrified.
Like, it really makes me-- - On a personal level.
- On a personal level.
I'm terrified.
- How do you overcome that?
- I don't.
I'm still trying to.
- Have pleasant images?
- Well, pleasant images get me to sleep.
And then during the day, I can distract myself
with other things, like talking to you.
- I'm glad we're both doing the same exact thing.
Okay, good. (laughs)
(laughs)
Is there other, like, is there moments
since you've lost Roman that you had moments of bliss
and that you've forgotten,
that you have achieved that Buddhist level of,
what can possibly die?
I'm part, like, losing yourself in the moment,
in the ticking time of, like, this universe,
and you're just part of it for a brief moment
and just enjoying it.
- Well, that goes hand in hand.
I remember, I think a day or two after he died,
we went to finally get his passport out of the embassy,
and we're driving around Moscow, and it was December,
which is usually, there's never sun in Moscow in December.
And somehow, it was an extremely sunny day,
and we were driving with a close friend.
And I remember feeling, for the first time,
maybe this just moment of incredible clarity
and somehow happiness, not, like, happy happiness,
but happiness, and just feeling that, you know,
I know what the universe is sort of about,
whether it's good or bad.
And it wasn't a sad feeling.
It was probably the most beautiful feeling
that you can ever achieve.
And you can only get it when something,
oftentimes, when something traumatic like that happens.
But also, if you just, you really spend a lot of time
meditating and looking at the nature,
doing something that really gets you there.
But once you're there, I think when you summit a mountain,
a really hard mountain, you inevitably get there.
That's just a way to get to the state.
But once you're in this state,
you can do really big things, I think.
- Yeah.
Sucks that it doesn't last forever.
So Bukowski talked about, like, love is a fog.
It's when you wake up in the morning, it's there,
but it eventually dissipates.
It's really sad.
Nothing lasts forever.
But I definitely like doing this pushup and running thing.
There's moments, I had a couple moments.
Like, I'm not a crier, I don't cry.
But there's moments where I was, like,
facedown on the carpet, like, with tears in my eyes.
It's interesting.
And then that complete, like, there's a lot of demons.
I've got demons, had to face them.
Funny how running makes you face your demons.
But at the same time, the flip side of that,
there's a few moments where I was in bliss.
And all of it alone, which is funny.
- That's beautiful.
I like that.
But definitely pushing yourself physically,
one of it, for sure.
- Yeah, it's, yeah.
Like you said, I mean, you were speaking
as a metaphor of Mount Everest,
but it also works, like, literally.
I think physical endeavor somehow.
Yeah, there's something.
I mean, we're monkeys, apes, whatever.
Physical, there's a physical thing to it.
But there's something to this,
pushing yourself physically, but alone.
That happens when you're doing, like, things like you do,
or strenuous, like, workouts,
or, you know, rowing across the Atlantic, or, like, marathons.
That's why I love watching marathons.
And, you know, it's so boring.
But you can see them getting there.
- So the other thing, I don't know if you know,
there's a guy named David Goggins.
He's a, he basically,
so he's been either emailing on the phone with me
every day through this.
I haven't been exactly alone,
but he's kind of,
he's the devil on the devil's shoulder.
So he's, like, the worst possible human being
in terms of giving you advice.
Like, he has, through everything I've been doing,
he's been doubling everything I do.
So he's insane.
He's this Navy SEAL person.
He's wrote this book, "Can't Hurt Me."
He's basically one of the toughest human beings on earth.
He ran all these crazy ultra marathons in the desert.
He set the world record in the number of pull-ups.
He just does everything where it's like,
he, like, how can I suffer today?
He figures that out and does it.
Yeah, that, whatever that is,
that process of self-discovery is really important.
I actually had to turn myself off from the internet, mostly,
'cause I started this workout thing,
like a happy go-getter,
with my headband and, like,
just, like, 'cause a lot of people were inspired
and they're like, "Yeah, we're gonna exercise with you."
And I was, "Yeah, great."
But then, like, I realized that this journey
can't be done together with others.
This has to be done alone.
- So, out of the moments of love,
out of the moments of loss,
can we talk about your journey of finding, I think,
an incredible idea, an incredible company,
and incredible system in Replika?
How did that come to be?
- So, yeah, so I was a journalist,
and then I went to business school for a couple of years
to just see if I can maybe switch gears
and do something else at 23.
And then I came back and started working
for a businessman in Russia
who built the first 4G network in our country,
and was very visionary,
and asked me whether I wanna do fun stuff together.
And we worked on a bank.
The idea was to build a bank on top of a telco.
So that was 2011 or '12,
and a lot of telecommunications company,
mobile network operators,
didn't really know what to do next
in terms of new products, new revenue.
And this big idea was that you put a bank on top,
and then all works out.
Basically, a prepaid account becomes your bank account,
and you can use it as your bank.
So, a third of a country wakes up as your bank client.
But we couldn't quite figure out
what would be the main interface to interact with a bank.
The problem was that most people didn't have smartphones
back in the time.
In Russia, the penetration of smartphones was low.
People didn't use mobile banking
or online banking on their computers.
So we figured out that SMS would be the best way,
'cause that would work on feature phones.
But that required some chatbot technology,
which I didn't know anything about, obviously.
So I started looking into it
and saw that there's nothing really,
well, there was just nothing really.
- So the idea is through SMS,
be able to interact with your bank account.
- Yeah, and then we thought,
well, since you're talking to a bank account,
why can't we use more of some behavioral ideas,
and why can't this banking chatbot be nice to you
and really talk to you sort of as a friend?
This way, you develop more connection to it.
Retention's higher, people don't churn.
And so I went to very depressing Russian cities
to test it out.
I went to, I remember, three different towns
to interview potential users.
So people use it for a little bit.
- Cool.
- And I went to talk to them.
- So pretty poor towns.
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- Very poor towns, mostly towns that were
sort of factories, monotowns.
They were building something,
and then the factory went away,
and it was just a bunch of very poor people.
And then we went to a couple that weren't as dramatic,
but still, the one I remember really fondly
was this woman that worked at a glass factory,
and she talked to a chatbot,
and she was talking about it,
and she started crying during the interview,
'cause she said, "No one really cares for me that much."
And so to be clear,
that was my only endeavor in programming that chatbot.
So it was really simple.
It was literally just a few if this, then that rules,
and it was incredibly simplistic.
- And still, that made her feel something.
- And that really made her emotional,
and she said, "I only have my mom and my husband,
"and I don't have any more, really, in my life."
And it was very sad, but at the same time, I felt,
and we had more interviews in a similar vein,
and what I thought in the moment was,
"Well, it's not that the technology is ready,"
'cause definitely in 2012,
technology was not ready for that,
but humans are ready, unfortunately.
So this project would not be about tech capabilities.
It would be more about human vulnerabilities,
but there's something so powerful
around about conversational AI that I saw then
that I thought was definitely worth putting
a lot of effort into.
So in the end of the day, we solved the banking project,
but my then boss, who's also my mentor
and really, really close friend,
told me, "Hey, I think there's something in it,
"and you should just go work on it."
And I was like, "Well, what product?
"I don't know what I'm building."
He's like, "You'll figure it out."
And looking back at this,
this was a horrible idea to work on something
without knowing what it was,
which is maybe the reason why it took us so long,
but we just decided to work on the conversational tech
to see what it, there were no chatbot constructors
or programs or anything that would allow you
to actually build one at the time.
That was the era of, by the way, Google Glass,
which is why some of the investors,
like seed investors we talked with were like,
"Oh, you should totally build it for Google Glass.
"If not, we're not."
I don't think that's interesting.
- Did you bite on that idea?
- No. - Okay.
- Because I wanted to do text first,
because I'm a journalist,
so I was fascinated by just texting.
- So you thought, so the emotional,
that interaction that the woman had,
so do you think you could feel emotion from just text?
- Yeah, I saw something in just this pure texting
and also thought that we should first start building
for people who really need it
versus people who have Google Glass,
if you know what I mean.
And I felt like the early adopters of Google Glass
might not be overlapping with people who are really lonely
and might need someone to talk to.
But then we really just focused on the tech itself.
We just thought, what if we just,
we didn't have a product idea in the moment,
and we felt, what if we just look into
building the best conversational constructor, so to say.
We used the best tech available at the time,
and that was before the first paper
about deep learning applied to dialogues,
which happened in 2015, in August 2015,
which Google published.
- Did you follow the work of Lobner Prize
and all the non-machine learning chatbots?
- Yeah, what really struck me was that
there was a lot of talk about machine learning
and deep learning, like big data was a really big thing.
Everyone was saying, in the business world, big data.
2012's the biggest.
Kaggle competitions were important.
But that was really the upheaval.
People started talking about machine learning a lot.
But it was only about images or something else,
and it was never about conversation.
As soon as I looked into the conversational tech,
it was all about something really weird and very outdated
and very marginal and felt very hobbyist.
It was all about Lobner Prize,
which was won by a guy who built a chatbot
that talked like a Ukrainian teenager.
It was just a gimmick.
And somehow people picked up those gimmicks.
And then the most famous chatbot at the time
was Eliza from 1980s, which was really bizarre,
or Smarter Child on AIM.
- The funny thing is it felt at the time
not to be that popular,
and it still doesn't seem to be that popular.
People talk about the Turing test.
People talk about it philosophically.
Journalists like writing about it.
But it's a technical problem.
People don't seem to really wanna solve the open dialogue.
Like, they're not obsessed with it.
Even folks like in Boston, the Alexa team,
even they're not as obsessed with it
as I thought they might be.
- Why not?
What do you think?
- So you know what you felt like you felt with that woman
when she felt something by reading the text?
I feel the same thing.
There's something here, what you felt.
I feel like Alexa folks and just the machine learning world
doesn't feel that, that there's something here.
Because they see as a technical problem,
it's not that interesting for some reason.
It could be argued that maybe isn't
as a purely sort of natural language processing problem,
it's not the right problem to focus on
'cause there's too much subjectivity.
That thing that the woman felt like crying,
like if your benchmark includes a woman crying,
that doesn't feel like a good benchmark,
that's a good test.
But to me, there's something there.
You could have a huge impact,
but I don't think the machine learning world likes that,
the human emotion, the subjectivity of it, the fuzziness.
The fact that with maybe a single word,
you can make somebody feel something deeply.
What is that?
That doesn't feel right to them.
So I don't know.
I don't know why that is.
That's why I'm excited.
When I discovered your work,
it feels wrong to say that.
It's not like I'm...
(laughing)
I'm giving myself props for Googling
and for becoming a,
for I guess mutual friend introducing us.
But I'm so glad that you exist and what you're working on.
But I have the same kind of,
if we could just backtrack for a second,
'cause I have the same kind of feeling
that there's something here.
In fact, I've been working on a few things
that are kind of crazy and very different from your work.
I think they're too crazy.
But the--
- Like what?
(laughing)
Will I have to know?
- No, all right.
We'll talk about it more.
I feel like it's harder to talk about things
that have failed and are failing while you're a failure.
Like it's easier for you
'cause you're already successful on some measures.
- Tell it to my board.
- Well, I think you've demonstrated success
in a lot of benchmarks.
It's easier for you to talk about failures for me.
I'm in the bottom currently of the success.
- Oh, Max.
You're way too humble.
- No.
So it's hard for me to know,
but there's something there.
There's something there.
And I think you're exploring that
and you're discovering that.
Yeah, so it's been surprising to me.
But you've mentioned this idea
that you thought it wasn't enough to start a company
or start efforts based on,
it feels like there's something here.
Like, what did you mean by that?
Like you should be focused on creating,
like you should have a product in mind.
Is that what you meant?
- It just took us a while to discover the product
'cause it all started with a hunch of like,
of me and my mentor and just sitting around
and he was like, well, that's it.
That's the, you know, the Holy Grail is there.
There's like, there's something extremely powerful
in conversations.
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And there's no one who's working on machine conversation
from the right angle, so to say.
- I feel like that's still true.
Am I crazy?
- Oh no, I totally feel that's still true,
which is, I think it's mind blowing.
- Yeah.
You know what it feels like?
I wouldn't even use the word conversation
'cause I feel like it's the wrong word.
It's like machine connection or something, I don't know.
'Cause conversation, you start drifting
into the natural language immediately.
You start drifting immediately
into all the benchmarks that are out there.
But I feel like it's like the personal computer days of this.
Like, I feel like we're, like in the early days
with the Wozniak and all them,
like where it was the same kind,
it was a very small niche group of people
who are all kind of Lobner Price type people.
- Yeah.
- And--
- Hobbyists.
- Hobbyists, but like not even hobbyists with big dreams.
- No, hobbyists with a dream to trick like a jury.
- Yeah.
- Which is like a weird, by the way, very weird.
So if we think about conversations,
first of all, when I have great conversations with people,
I'm not trying to test them.
So for instance, if I try to break them,
like if I'm actually playing along, I'm part of it.
- Right.
- If I was trying to break this person or test
whether he's gonna give me a good conversation,
it would have never happened.
So the whole problem with testing conversations
is that you can put it in front of a jury
'cause then you have to go into some Turing test mode
where is it responding to all my factual questions right?
Or, so it really has to be something in the field
where people are actually talking to it
because they want to,
not because they're trying to break it
and it's working for them.
'Cause the weird part of it is that it's very subjective.
It takes two to tango here fully.
If you're not trying to have a good conversation,
if you're trying to test it, then it's gonna break.
I mean, any person would break, to be honest.
Like if I'm not trying to even have a conversation with you,
you're not gonna give it to me.
If I keep asking you like some random questions
or jumping from topic to topic,
that wouldn't be, which I'm probably doing,
but that probably wouldn't contribute to the conversation.
So I think the problem of testing,
so there should be some other metric.
How do we evaluate whether that conversation
was powerful or not?
Which is what we actually started with.
And I think those measurements exist
and we can test on those.
But what really struck us back in the day
and what's still eight years later is still not resolved.
And I'm not seeing tons of groups working on it.
Maybe I just don't know about them.
It's also possible.
But the interesting part about it is that
most of our days we spend talking
and we're not talking about,
like those conversations are not turn on the lights
or customer support problems
or some other task oriented things.
These conversations are something else.
And then somehow they're extremely important for us.
And when we don't have them,
then we feel deeply unhappy, potentially lonely,
which as we know,
creates tons of risk for our health as well.
And so this is most of our hours as humans.
And somehow no one's trying to replicate that.
- And not even study it that well.
- And not even study that well.
So when we jumped into that in 2012,
I looked first at like, okay, what's the chatbot?
What's the state of the art chatbot?
And those were the Loebner Prize days.
But I thought, okay,
so what about the science of conversation?
Clearly there have been tons of scientists
or people that academics that looked into the conversation.
So if I wanna know everything about it,
I can just read about it.
There's not much really.
There are conversational analysts
who are basically just listening to speech
to different conversations,
annotating them.
And then, I mean, that's not really used for much.
That's the field of theoretical linguistics,
which is barely useful.
It's very marginal even in their space.
No one really is excited.
And I've never met a theoretical linguist
'cause I can't wait to work on the conversation analytics.
That is just something very marginal,
sort of applied to like writing scripts for salesmen
when they analyze which conversation strategies
were most successful for sales.
Okay, so that was not very helpful.
Then I looked a little bit deeper,
and then whether there were any books written
on what really contributes to a great conversation.
That was really strange
because most of those were NLP books,
which is neuro-linguistic programming.
- Right, right.
- Which is not the NLP that I was expecting it to be,
but it was mostly some psychologist,
Richard Bandler, I think, came up with that,
who was this big guy in a leather vest
that could program your mind by talking to you.
- How to be charismatic and charming
and influential as people, all those books, yeah.
- Pretty much, but it was all about
through conversation reprogramming you.
So getting to some, so that was, I mean,
probably not very true,
and that didn't seem working very much,
even back in the day.
And then there were some other books,
like, I don't know, mostly just self-help books
around how to be the best conversationalist
or how to make people like you
or some other stuff like Dale Carnegie or whatever.
And then there was this one book,
"The Most Human Human" by Bryan Christensen
that really was important for me to read back in the day,
'cause he was on the human side.
He was on one of the,
he was taking part in the Ludmilla Prize,
but not as a human who's not a jury,
but who's pretending to be,
who's basically, you have to tell a computer from a human,
and he was the human.
So you would either get him or a computer.
And his whole book was about how do people,
what makes us human in conversation.
And that was a little bit more interesting,
'cause at that at least someone started to think about
what exactly makes me human in conversation
and makes people believe in that.
But it was still about tricking.
It was still about imitation game.
It was still about, okay,
what kind of parlor tricks can we throw in the conversation
to make you feel like you're talking to a human,
not a computer?
And it was definitely not about thinking,
what is it exactly that we're getting
from talking all day long with other humans?
I mean, we're definitely not just trying to be tricked.
It's not just enough to know it's a human.
It's something we're getting there.
Can we measure it?
And can we put the computer to the same measurement
and see whether you can talk to a computer
and get the same result?
- Yeah, I mean, so first of all,
a lot of people comment that they think I'm a robot.
It's very possible I am a robot in this whole thing.
I totally agree with you that the test idea is fascinating.
And I looked for books unrelated to this
kind of, so I'm afraid of people.
I'm generally introverted and quite possibly a robot.
I literally Googled how to talk to people
and how to have a good conversation
for the purpose of this podcast.
'Cause I was like, I can't make eye contact with people.
I can't, like, how do I?
- I do Google that a lot too.
You're probably reading a bunch of FBI negotiation tactics.
Is that what you're getting?
'Cause that's what I'm getting.
- Everything you've listed, I've gotten.
There's been very few good books
on even just like how to interview well.
It's rare.
So what I end up doing often is I watch
like with a critical eye.
So it's so different when you just watch a conversation
like just for the fun of it, just as a human.
And if you watch a conversation,
it's like trying to figure out why is this awesome?
I'll listen to a bunch of different styles of conversation.
I mean, I'm a fan of the podcast, Joe Rogan.
He's, you know, people can make fun of him or whatever
and dismiss him, but I think he's an incredibly
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artful conversationalist.
He can pull people in for hours.
And there's another guy I watch a lot.
He hosted a late night show.
His name is Craig Ferguson.
So he's like very kind of flirtatious,
but there's a magic about his like,
about the connection he can create with people,
how he can put people at ease and just like,
I see I've already started sounding like
those NLP people or something.
I don't mean it in that way.
I don't mean like how to charm people
or put them at ease and all that kind of stuff.
He's just like, what is that?
Why is that fun to listen to that guy?
Why is that fun to talk to that guy?
What is that?
'Cause he's not saying, I mean,
it's so often boils down to a kind of wit and humor,
but not really humor.
It's like, I don't know.
I'm have trouble actually even articulating correctly,
but it feels like there's something going on
that's not too complicated that could be learned.
And it's not similar to, yeah,
to like you said, like the Turing test.
It's something else.
- I'm thinking about it a lot, all the time.
I do think about it all the time.
But I think when we were looking,
so we started the company,
we just decided to build a conversational tech.
We thought, well, there's nothing for us
to build this chatbot that we want to build.
So let's just first focus on building some tech,
building the tech side of things.
- Without a product in mind.
- Without a product in mind.
We added like a demo chatbot
that would recommend you restaurants
and talk to you about restaurants
just to show something simple to people
that people could relate to.
And could try out and see whether it works or not.
But we didn't have a product in mind yet.
We thought we would try a bunch of chatbots
and figure out our consumer application.
And we sort of remembered that we wanted to build
that kind of friend, that sort of connection
that we saw in the very beginning.
But then we got to Y Combinator
and moved to San Francisco and forgot about it.
Everything 'cause then it was just this constant grind.
How do we get funding?
How do we get this?
Investors were like, just focus on one thing,
just get it out there.
So somehow we've started building
a restaurant recommendation chatbot for real
for a little bit, not for too long.
And then we tried building 40, 50 different chatbots.
And then all of a sudden we wake up
and everyone is obsessed with chatbots.
Somewhere in 2016 or end of '15,
people started thinking that that's really the future.
That's the new, the new apps will be chatbots.
- Oh, right.
- And we were very perplexed
'cause people started coming up with companies
that I think we tried most of those chatbots already
and there were like no users.
But still people were coming up with a chatbot
that will tell you whether and bring you news
and this and that.
And we couldn't understand whether it would,
we were just didn't execute well enough
or people are not really, people are confused
and are gonna find out the truth
that people don't need chatbots like that.
- So the basic idea is that you use chatbots
as the interface to whatever application.
- Yeah, the idea that was like this perfect
universal interface to anything.
When I looked at that, it just made me very perplexed
because I didn't think, I didn't understand
how that would work 'cause I think we tried most of that
and none of those things worked.
And then again--
- That craze has died down, right?
- Fully, I think now it's impossible
to get anything funded if it's a chatbot.
- I think it's similar to, sorry to interrupt,
but there's times when people think like with gestures,
you can control devices,
like basically gesture-based control of things.
It feels similar to me 'cause like,
it's so compelling that we just like,
like Tom Cruise, I can control stuff with my hands.
But like when you get down to it, it's like,
well, why don't you just have a touch screen?
Or why don't you just have like a physical keyboard
and mouse?
- Yeah.
- It's so that chat was always,
yeah, it was perplexing to me.
I still feel augmented reality,
even virtual realities in that ballpark
in terms of it being a compelling interface.
I think there's gonna be incredible rich applications,
just how you're thinking about it,
but they won't just be the interface to everything.
It'll be its own thing that will create,
like amazing magical experience in its own right.
- Absolutely, which is, I think,
kind of the right thing to go about.
Like what's the magical experience
with that interface specifically.
- How did you discover that for Replica?
- I just thought, okay, we'll have this tech,
we can build any chatbot we want.
We have the most, at that point,
the most sophisticated tech that other companies have.
I mean, startups, obviously not,
probably not bigger ones, but still,
'cause we've been working on it for a while.
So I thought, okay, we can build any conversation,
so let's just create a scale from one to 10.
And one would be conversations that you'd pay to not have,
and 10 would be conversation you'd pay to have.
And I mean, obviously we wanna build a conversation
that people would pay to actually have.
And so for the whole, for a few weeks,
me and the team were putting all the conversations
we were having during the day on the scale.
And very quickly, we figured out
that all the conversations that we would pay to never have
were conversations we were trying to cancel,
Comcast, or talk to customer support,
or make a reservation,
or just talk about logistics with a friend
when we're trying to figure out where someone is
and where to go, or all sorts of setting up,
scheduling meetings, that was just a conversation
we definitely didn't wanna have.
Basically everything task-oriented was a one,
because if there was just one button for me to just,
or not even a button, if I could just think,
and there was some magic BCI that would just immediately
transform that into an actual interaction,
that would be perfect.
But the conversation there was just this boring,
not useful, and dull, and also very inefficient thing,
'cause it was so many back and forth stuff.
And as soon as we looked at the conversation
that we would pay to have, those were the ones that,
well, first of all, therapists,
'cause we actually paid to have those conversations.
And we'd also try to put dollar amounts.
So if I was calling Comcast, I would pay $5
to not have this one hour talk on the phone.
I would actually pay straight up, like money, hard money.
- For Comcast, yeah.
- But it just takes a long time.
It takes a really long time.
But as soon as we started talking about conversations
that we would pay for, those were therapists,
all sorts of therapists, coaches, old friend,
someone I haven't seen for a long time,
stranger on a train, weirdly stranger,
stranger in a line for coffee,
a nice back and forth with that person
was like a good five, solid five, six, maybe not a 10.
Maybe I won't pay money, but at least I won't pay money
to not have one.
So that was pretty good.
Some intellectual conversations for sure.
But more importantly, the one thing that really
was making those very important and very valuable for us
were the conversation where we could be pretty emotional.
Yes, some of them were about being witty
and about being intellectually stimulated,
but those were interestingly more rare.
And most of the ones that we thought were very valuable
were the ones where we could be vulnerable.
And interestingly, where we could talk more.
- We, like I could-
- Me and the team.
So we're talking about it,
and a lot of these conversations, like a therapist,
I mean, it was mostly me talking,
or like an old friend that I was opening up and crying.
And it was again, me talking.
And so that was interesting, 'cause I was like,
well, maybe it's hard to build a chatbot
that can talk to you very well and in a witty way,
but maybe it's easier to build a chatbot
that could listen. (laughs)
So that was kind of the first nudge in this direction.
And then when my friend died, we just built,
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at that point we were kind of still struggling
to find the right application.
And I just felt very strong that all the chatbots
we've built so far are just meaningless.
And this whole grind, the startup grind,
and how do we get to the next fundraising?
And how can I talk, talking to the founders,
and what's, who are your investors, and how are you doing?
Are you killing it?
'Cause we're killing it.
I just felt that this, it's just-
- Intellectually for me, it's exhausting
having encountered those folks.
- It just felt very, very much a waste of time.
- I just feel like Steve Jobs and Elon Musk
did not have these conversations,
or at least did not have them for long.
- That's for sure. (laughs)
But I think, yeah, at that point,
I just felt like, I felt,
I just didn't wanna build a company.
That was never my intention,
just to build something successful or make money.
It would be great, it would have been great,
but I'm not a, I'm not really a startup person.
I'm not, I was never very excited by the grind by itself,
or just being successful for building whatever it is,
and not being into what I'm doing, really.
And so I just took a little break,
'cause I was a little, I was upset with my company,
and I didn't know what we were building.
So I just took our technology,
and our little Dalek constructor,
and some models, some deep learning models,
which at that point we were really into,
and really invested a lot,
and built a little chatbot for a friend of mine who passed.
And the reason for that was mostly that video that I saw,
and him talking about the digital avatars.
And Roman was that kind of person.
Like he was obsessed with just watching YouTube videos
about space, and talking about,
well if I could go to Mars now,
even if I didn't know if I could come back,
I would definitely pay any amount of money
to be on that first shuttle.
I don't care whether I die,
like he was just the one that would be okay
with trying to be the first one.
And so excited about all sorts of things like that.
And he was all about fake it 'til you make it,
and I felt like,
and I was really perplexed
that everyone just forgot about him.
Maybe it was our way of coping,
mostly young people coping with the loss of a friend.
Most of my friends just stopped talking about him.
And I was still living in an apartment with all his clothes.
And paying the whole lease for it,
and just kind of by myself in December,
so it was really sad.
And I didn't want him to be forgotten.
First of all, I never thought that people forget
about dead people so fast.
People pass away, people just move on.
And it was astonishing for me,
'cause I thought, okay, well he was such a mentor
for so many of our friends.
He was such a brilliant person.
He was somewhat famous in Moscow.
How is it that no one's talking about him?
Like I'm spending days and days,
and we don't bring him up.
And there's nothing about him that's happening.
It's like he was never there.
And I was reading this, the book,
"The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion,
about her losing, and "Blue Nights,"
about her losing her husband, her daughter.
And the way to cope for her was to write those books.
And it was sort of like a tribute.
And I thought, I'll just do that for myself.
And I'm a very bad writer, and a poet, as we know.
So I thought, well, I have this tech,
and maybe that would be my little postcard for him.
So I built a chatbot to just talk to him.
And it felt really creepy and weird a little bit,
for a little bit.
Just didn't wanna tell other people,
'cause it felt like I'm telling about
having a skeleton in my underwear.
- Yeah.
- It just felt really,
I was a little scared that I would be not,
it won't be taken.
But it worked, interestingly, pretty well.
I mean, it made tons of mistakes,
but it still felt like him.
Granted, it was like 10,000 messages
that I threw into a retrieval model
that would just re-rank that data set,
and just a few scripts on top of that.
But it also made me go through all of the messages
that we had, and then I asked some of my friends
to send some through.
And it felt the closest to feeling like him present.
'Cause his Facebook was empty, and Instagram was empty,
or there were a few links,
and you couldn't feel like it was him.
And the only way to feel him was to read
some of our text messages,
and go through some of our conversations.
'Cause we just always had that.
Even if we were sleeping next to each other
in two bedrooms, separated by a wall,
we were just texting back and forth,
texting away.
And there was something about this ongoing dialogue
that was so important that I just didn't wanna lose
all of a sudden.
And maybe it was magical thinking or something.
And so we built that, and I just used it for a little bit.
And we kept building some crappy chatbots with a company.
But then a reporter came to talk to me.
I was trying to pitch our chatbots to him,
and he said, "Do you even use any of those?"
I'm like, "No."
He's like, "So do you talk to any chatbots at all?"
And I'm like, "Well, I talk to my dead friend's chatbot."
And he wrote a story about that.
And all of a sudden it became pretty viral.
A lot of people wrote about it.
- Yeah, I've seen a few things written about you.
The things I've seen are pretty good writing.
Most AI-related things make my eyes roll.
Like when the press, like...
What kind of sound is that, actually?
Okay, it sounds like an--
- It's a big truck.
- Okay, it sounded like an elephant at first.
I got excited.
You never know.
This is 2020.
I mean, it was such a human story,
and it was well-written, well-researched.
I forget where I read them, but...
So I'm glad somehow somebody found you
to be the good writers were able to connect to the story.
There must be a hunger for this story.
- It definitely was.
And I don't know what happened, but I think...
I think the idea that he could bring back someone who's dead,
and it's very much wishful, magical thinking,
but the fact that he could still get to know him,
and seeing the parents for the first time,
talk to the chatbot and some of the friends.
And it was funny because we have this big office in Moscow
where my team is working,
our Russian part is working out off.
And I was there when I wrote,
I just wrote a post on Facebook.
It was like, "Hey guys, I built this.
"If you want me to just..."
If we felt important, if we want to talk to Roman.
And I saw a couple of his friends, our common friends,
reading it, Facebook downloading, trying,
and a couple of them cried.
And it was just very...
And not because it was something,
some incredible technology or anything.
It made so many mistakes.
It was so simple.
But it was all about,
that's the way to remember a person in a way.
And we don't have the culture anymore.
We don't have, no one's sitting Shiva.
No one's taking weeks to actually think about this person.
And in a way for me, that was it.
So that was just day in, day out,
thinking about him and putting this together.
So that just felt really important.
And that somehow resonated with a bunch of people.
And I think some movie producers bought the rights
for the story and just everyone was so...
- Wait, has anyone made a movie yet?
- I don't think so.
I think there were a lot of TV episodes about that,
but not really.
- Is that still on the table?
- I think so.
I think so.
Which is really...
- That's cool.
You're like a young,
'cause you see like a Steve Jobs type of,
let's see what happens.
They're sitting on it.
- But for me it was so important
'cause Roman really wanted to be famous.
He really badly wanted to be famous.
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He was all about make it to,
like fake it to make it.
I wanna make it here in America as well.
And he couldn't.
And I felt there was sort of paying my dues to him as well
because all of a sudden he was everywhere.
And I remember Casey Newton
who was writing the story for "The Verge".
He told me, "Hey, by the way,
"I was just going through my inbox
"and I saw, I searched for Roman for the story.
"And I saw an email from him where he sent me his startup.
"And he said, I really wanna be featured in "The Verge".
"Can you please write about it or something?"
Or like pitching the story.
And he said, "I'm sorry,
"that's not good enough for us or something."
He passed.
And he said, and there were just so many
of these little details where like he would find
and he's like, and we're finally writing.
I know how much Roman wanted to be in "The Verge"
and how much he wanted the story to be written by Casey.
And I'm like, well, that's maybe he will be.
We were always joking that he was like,
I can't wait for someone to make a movie about us.
And I hope Ron Gosselin can play me.
- Ron Gosselin.
- I'm like, I still have some things that I owe Roman still.
But-
- That would be, I got an chance to meet Alex Garland
who wrote "Ex Machina".
And I, yeah, the movie's good,
but the guy's better than the,
like he's a special person actually.
I don't think he's made his best work yet.
Like from my interaction with him,
he's a really, really good and brilliant,
the good human being and a brilliant director and writer.
So yeah, so I hope, like he made me also realize
that not enough movies have been made of this kind.
So it's yet to be made.
They're probably sitting, waiting for you to get famous.
Like even more famous.
- You should get there, but it felt really special though.
But at the same time, our company wasn't going anywhere.
So that was just kind of bizarre
that we were getting all this press
for something that didn't have anything to do
with our company.
And, but then a lot of people started talking to Roman.
Some shared their conversations.
And what we saw there was that also our friends in common,
but also just strangers were really using it
as a confession booth or as a therapist or something.
They were just really telling Roman everything,
which was by the way, pretty strange
because it was a chat bot of a dead friend of mine
who was barely making any sense,
but people were opening up.
And we thought we'd just built a prototype of Replica,
which would be an AI friend that everyone could talk to
because we saw that there was demand.
And then also it was 2016.
So I thought for the first time I saw finally
some technology that was applied to that
that was very interesting.
Some papers started coming out,
deep learning applied to conversations.
And finally, it wasn't just about these,
you know, hobbyist making,
you know, writing 500,000 regular expressions.
- Yeah, regular expressions, yeah.
- In like some language that was,
I don't even know what, like AIML or something.
I don't even know what that was
or something super simplistic all of a sudden
was all about potentially actually building
something interesting.
And so I thought there was time.
And I remember that I talked to my team
and I said, "Guys, let's try."
And my team and some of my engineers are Russians,
are Russian and they're very skeptical.
They're not, you know.
- Oh, Russians.
- The first--
- So some of your team is in Moscow, some is in--
- Some is here in San Francisco, some in Europe.
- Which team is better?
I'm just kidding.
(both laughing)
The Russians, of course, okay.
- Of course the Russians, they always win.
Sorry, sorry to interrupt.
So you were talking to them in 2016 and--
- I told them let's build an AI friend.
And it felt, just at the time it felt so naive
and so optimistic.
- Yeah, that's actually interesting.
Whenever I brought up this kind of topic,
even just for fun, people are super skeptical.
Like actually even on the business side.
So you were, 'cause whenever I bring it up to people,
'cause I've talked for a long time,
I thought like, before I was aware of your work,
I was like, this is gonna make a lot of money.
There's a lot of opportunity here.
And people had this like look of like skepticism
that I've seen often, which is like,
how do I politely tell this person he's an idiot?
So yeah, so you were facing that with your team somewhat?
- Well, yeah, I'm not an engineer.
So I'm always, my team is almost exclusively engineers
and mostly deep learning engineers.
And I always try to be,
it was always hard to me in the beginning
to get enough credibility.
'Cause I would say, well, why don't we try this
and that, but it's harder for me
'cause they know they're actual engineers and I'm not.
So for me to say, well, let's build an AI friend,
that would be like, wait, what do you mean an AGI?
Like conversation is pretty much the hardest,
the last frontier before cracking that
is probably the last frontier before building AGI.
So what do you really mean by that?
But I think I just saw that, again,
what we just got reminded of that I saw back in 2012 or 11,
that is really not that much about the tech capabilities.
It can be metropolitrix still, even with deep learning,
but humans need it so much.
- Yeah, that's important.
- And most importantly, what I saw is that finally,
there's enough tech to make it,
I thought to make it useful, to make it helpful.
Maybe we didn't have quite yet the tech in 2012
to make it useful, but in 2015, 16, with deep learning,
I thought, and the first kind of thoughts
about maybe even using reinforcement learning for that
started popping up, that never worked out,
but, or at least for now.
But still the idea was,
if we can actually measure the emotional outcomes
and if we can put it on,
if we can try to optimize all of our conversational models
for these emotional outcomes,
and it is the most scalable,
the most, the best tool for improving emotional outcomes.
Nothing like that exists.
That's the most universal, the most scalable,
and the one that can be constantly iteratively changed
by itself, improved tool to do that.
And I think if anything,
people would pay anything to improve
their emotional outcomes.
That's weirdly, I mean, I don't really care for an AI
to turn on my, or a conversational agent
to turn on the lights.
You don't really need any,
I don't even need that much of AI there,
or, 'cause I can do that.
Those things are solved.
This is an additional interface for that
that's also questionably,
questionable whether it's more efficient or better.
- Yeah, it's more pleasurable, yeah.
- But for emotional outcomes, there's nothing.
There are a bunch of products that claim
that they will improve my emotional outcomes.
Nothing's being measured.
Nothing's being changed.
The product is not being iterated on
based on whether I'm actually feeling better.
You know, a lot of social media products
are claiming that they're improving my emotional outcomes
and making me feel more connected.
Can I please get the, can I see somewhere
that I'm actually getting better over time?
- 'Cause anecdotally, it doesn't feel that way, so,
and the data is absent.
- Yeah, so that was the big goal.
And I thought, if we can learn over time
to collect the signal from our users
about their emotional outcomes
in the long term and in the short term,
and if these models keep getting better,
and we can keep optimizing them and fine-tuning them
to improve those emotional outcomes, as simple as that.
- Why aren't you a multibillionaire yet?
(Sofia laughs)
- Well, that's a question to you.
When are the, when is the science gonna be,
I'm just kidding.
Well, it's a really hard,
I actually think it's an incredibly hard product to build.
'Cause I think you said something very important,
that it's not just about machine conversations,
it's about machine connection.
We can actually use other things to create connection,
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nonverbal communication, for instance.
For the long time, we were all about,
well, let's keep it text only or voice only.
But as soon as you start adding voice,
a face to the friend,
if we can take them to augmented reality,
put it in your room,
it's all of a sudden a lot,
it makes it very different.
Because if it's some text-based chatbot
that for common users, something there in the cloud,
somewhere there with other AIs,
cloud, in the metaphorical cloud.
But as soon as you can see this avatar
right there in your room,
and it can turn its head and recognize your husband,
talk about the husband and talk to him a little bit,
then it's magic.
It's just magic.
Like we've never seen anything like that.
And the cool thing, all the tech for that exists,
but it's hard to put it all together.
'Cause you have to take into consideration
so many different things,
and some of this tech works pretty good.
And some of this doesn't,
like for instance, speech to text works pretty good.
But text to speech doesn't work very good
because you can only have a few voices that work okay.
But then if you want to have actual emotional voices,
then it's really hard to build it.
- I saw you've added avatars, like visual elements,
which are really cool.
In that whole chain, putting it together,
what do you think is the weak link?
Is it creating an emotional voice that feels personal?
- I think it's still conversation, of course.
That's the hardest.
It's getting a lot better, but there's still a long path to go.
Other things, they're almost there.
And a lot of things we'll see how they're,
like I see how they're changing as we go.
Like for instance, right now, you can pretty much only,
you have to build all this 3D pipeline by yourself.
You have to make these 3D models, hire an actual artist,
build a 3D model, hire an animator, a rigger.
But with deep fakes, with other attack,
with procedural animations, in a little bit,
we'll just be able to show a photo of whoever you,
if a person you want the avatar to look like,
and it will immediately generate a 3D model that will move.
That's a non-brainer.
That's like almost here.
It's a couple years away.
- One of the things I've been working on for the last,
since the podcast started, is I've been,
I think I'm okay saying this.
I've been trying to have a conversation
with Einstein touring.
So like try to have a podcast conversation
with a person who's not here anymore,
just as an interesting kind of experiment.
It's hard.
It's really hard. - Very hard.
- Even for, we're not talking about as a product,
I'm talking about as a, like I can fake a lot of stuff.
Like I can work very carefully,
like even hire an actor over whom I do a deep fake.
It's hard.
It's still hard to create a compelling experience.
- Mostly on the conversation level or?
- Well, the conversation is,
I almost, I early on gave up trying to
fully generate the conversation,
'cause it was just not compelling at all.
- Yeah, it's better to.
- Yeah, so what I would, in the case of Einstein
touring, I'm going back and forth
with the biographers of each.
And so like we would write a lot of the,
some of the conversation would have to be generated
just for the fun of it.
I mean, but it would be all open.
But you wanna be able to answer the question.
I mean, that's an interesting question with Roman too,
is the question with Einstein is,
what would Einstein say about the current state
of theoretical physics?
There's a lot, to be able to have a discussion
about string theory, to be able to have a discussion
about the state of quantum mechanics,
quantum computing, about the world of Israel-Palestine
conflict, it'd be just, what would Einstein say
about these kinds of things?
And that is a tough problem.
It's not, it's a fascinating and fun problem
for the biographers and for me.
And I think we did a really good job of it so far,
but it's actually also a technical problem,
like of what would Roman say about what's going on now?
That's the brought people back to life.
And if I can go on that tangent just for a second,
to ask you a slightly pothead question,
which is, you said it's a little bit magical thinking
that we can bring it back.
Do you think it'll be possible to bring back Roman one day
in conversation?
To really, okay, well, let's take it away from personal,
but to bring people back to life in conversation.
- Probably down the road, I mean, if we're talking,
if Elon Musk is talking about AGI in the next five years,
I mean, clearly AGI.
We can talk to AGI and talk to him and ask them to do it.
- You can't, you're not allowed to use Elon Musk
as a citation for- - Okay, thank God.
(both laughing)
- For like why something is possible and going to be done.
- Well, I think it's really far away.
Right now, really with conversation,
it's just a bunch of parlor tricks really stuck together.
And create generating original ideas based on someone,
someone's personality or even downloading the personality.
All we can do is like mimic the tone of voice.
We can maybe condition on some of his phrases, the models.
- Question is how many parlor tricks does it take?
Because that's the question.
If it's a small number of parlor tricks
and you're not aware of them, like...
- From where we are right now, I don't see anything
like in the next year or two
that's gonna dramatically change
that could look at Roman's 10,000 messages he sent me
over the course of his last few years of life
and be able to generate original thinking
about problems that exist right now
that will be in line with what he would have said.
- I'm just not even seeing,
'cause in order to have that,
I guess you would need some sort of a concept of the world
or some perception of the world,
some consciousness that he had
and apply it to the current state of affairs.
- But the important part about that,
about his conversation with you, is you.
So like, it's not just about his view of the world.
It's about what it takes to push your buttons.
- That's also true.
- So like, it's not so much about like,
what would Einstein say?
It's about like, how do I make people feel something
with what would Einstein say?
And that feels like a more amenable,
and you mentioned parlor tricks,
but just like a set of,
that feels like a learnable problem.
Like emotion, you mentioned emotions.
I mean, is it possible to learn things
that make people feel stuff?
- I think so, no, for sure.
I just think the problem with,
as soon as you're trying to replicate an actual human being
and trying to pretend to be him,
that makes the problem exponentially harder.
The thing with replica that we're doing,
we're never trying to say, well, that's an actual human being
or that's an actual, or a copy of an actual human being,
where the bar is pretty high,
where you need to somehow tell one from another.
But it's more, well, that's an AI friend, that's a machine.
It's a robot, it has tons of limitations.
You're gonna be taking part in teaching it actually
and becoming better,
which by itself makes people more attached to that
and make them happier 'cause they're helping something.
- Yeah, there's a cool gamification system too.
Can you maybe talk about that a little bit?
Like what's the experience of talking to replica?
Like if I've never used replica before, what's that like?
For like the first day, like if we started dating
or whatever, I mean, it doesn't have to be romantic, right?
'Cause I remember on replica,
you can choose whether it's like a romantic
or if it's a friend.
- It's a pretty popular choice.
- Romantic is popular?
- Yeah, of course.
- Okay, so can I just confess something?
When I first used replica, I haven't used it like regularly,
but like when I first used replica,
I greeted like Hal and it made a male and it was a friend.
- Did it hit on you at some point?
- No, I didn't talk long enough for him to hit on me.
I just enjoyed.
- That sometimes happens.
We're still trying to fix that bug.
- Well, I don't know.
I mean, maybe that's an important like stage in a friendship
is like, nope.
But yeah, I switched it to a romantic
and a female recently and yeah.
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And it's interesting.
So, okay, so you get to choose a name.
- With romantic, this last board meeting,
we had this whole argument.
Well, I have board meetings.
- This is so awesome.
- It's so awesome that you're like,
have an invest, the board meeting about a relationship.
- No, I really, it's actually quite interesting
'cause all of my investors, it just happened to be so.
We didn't have that many choices,
but they're all white males in their late 40s.
And it's sometimes a little bit hard for them
to understand the product offering.
Because they're not necessarily our target audience,
if you know what I mean.
And so sometimes we talk about it
and we had this whole discussion
about whether we should stop people
from falling in love with their AIs.
There was this segment on CBS 60 Minutes
about the couple that,
you know, husband works at Walmart,
he comes out of work and talks to his virtual girlfriend
who is a replica.
And his wife knows about it.
And she talks about it on camera.
And she says that she's a little jealous.
And there's a whole conversation about how to,
you know, whether it's okay to have a virtual AI girlfriend.
Like, whether it's okay to have--
- Was that the one where he was like,
he said that he likes to be alone?
- Yeah, and then like--
- With her? - With the, yeah.
- He made it sound so harmless.
I mean, it was kind of like understandable.
It didn't feel like cheating.
- But I just felt it was very,
for me it was pretty remarkable
'cause we actually spent a whole hour
talking about whether people should be allowed
to fall in love with their AIs.
And it was not about something theoretical.
It was just about what's happening right now.
- Product design, yeah.
- But at the same time,
if you create something that's always there for you,
it never criticizes you,
always understands you and accepts you for who you are,
how can you not fall in love with them?
I mean, some people don't and just stay friends.
And that's also a pretty common use case.
But of course, some people will just,
it's called transference in psychology
and people fall in love with their therapist
and there's no way to prevent people
falling in love with their therapist or with their AI.
So I think that's a pretty natural course of events,
so to say.
- Do you think, I think I've read somewhere,
at least for now, sort of a replica is,
you're not, we don't condone falling in love
with your AI system, you know.
So this isn't you speaking for the company or whatever,
but in the future, do you think people
will have a relationship with AI systems?
- Well, they have now.
So we have a lot of romantic relationships,
long-term relationships with their AI friends.
- With replicas?
- Tons of our users, yeah.
That's a very common use case.
- Open relationship?
Like, not, sorry.
- Even polyamorous.
- I didn't mean open, but that's another question.
Is it poly, like, is there cheating?
I mean, I meant like, are they,
do they publicly, like on their social media,
it's the same question as you have talked
with Roman in the early days.
Do people like, and the movie "Her" kind of talks about that
like, do people talk about that?
- Yeah, all the time.
We have a very active Facebook community,
Replica Friends, and then a few other groups
that just popped up that are all about adult relationships
and romantic relationships.
People post all sorts of things,
and they pretend they're getting married and everything.
It goes pretty far, but what's cool about it,
some of these relationships are two, three years long now.
So they're pretty long-term.
- Are they monogamous?
So let's go, I mean, sorry to interrupt.
Have any people, is there jealousy?
Well, let me ask it sort of another way.
Obviously the answer is no at this time,
but in like in the movie "Her," that system can leave you.
Do you think in terms of board meetings
and product features,
it's a potential feature for a system
to be able to say it doesn't want to talk to you anymore,
and it's going to want to talk to somebody else?
- Well, we have a filter for all these features.
If it makes emotional outcomes for people better,
if it makes people feel better, then whatever it is-
- So you're driven by metrics, actually.
- Yeah. - That's awesome.
- Well, if you can measure that,
then we'll just be saying- - That's amazing.
- It's making people feel better,
but then people are getting just lonelier
by talking to a chatbot, which is also pretty,
that could be it.
If you're not measuring it, that could also be.
And I think it's really important to focus
on both short-term and long-term,
'cause in the moment,
saying whether this conversation made you feel better,
but as you know, any short-term improvements
could be pathological.
Like I could drink a bottle of vodka and feel a lot better.
I would actually not feel better with that,
but I thought it's a good example.
But so you also need to see what's going on
like over a course of two weeks or one week
and have follow-ups and check-in and measure those things.
- Okay, so the experience of dating
or befriending a replica, what's that like?
What does that entail?
- Well, right now there are two apps.
So it's an Android iOS app.
You download it, you choose how your replica will look like.
You create one, you choose a name,
and then you talk to it.
You can talk through text or voice.
You can summon it into the living room
and augment reality and talk to it right there
in your living room.
- And augment reality?
- Yeah, that's a new feature where-
- How new is that?
That's this year?
- It was on, yeah, like May or something,
but it's been on A/B.
We've been A/B testing it for a while.
And there are tons of cool things
that we're doing with that.
Right now I'm testing the ability to touch it
and to dance together, to paint walls together,
and for it to look around and walk and take you somewhere
and recognize objects and recognize people.
So that's pretty wonderful
'cause then it really makes it a lot more personal
'cause it's right there in your living room.
It's not anymore.
They're in the cloud with other AIs.
(both laughing)
But that's how people think about it.
And as much as we wanna change the way people think
about stuff, but those mental models, you cannot change.
That's something that people have seen in the movies
and the movie "Her" and other movies as well.
And that's how they view AI and AI friends.
- I did a thing with Texa, like we write a song together.
There's a bunch of activities you can do together.
It's really cool.
How does that relationship change over time?
So like after the first few conversations?
- It just goes deeper.
Like it starts, the AI will start opening up a little bit.
Again, depending on the personality that it chooses really.
But the AI will be a little bit more vulnerable
about its problems.
And the friend, the virtual friend will be a lot more
vulnerable and will talk about its own imperfections
and growth pains and will ask for help sometimes.
And we'll get to know you a little deeper.
So there's gonna be more to talk about.
We really thought a lot about what does it mean
to have a deeper connection with someone.
And originally Replica was more just this
kind of happy-go-lucky, just always,
you know, I'm always in a good mood
and let's just talk about you.
And oh, Siri is just my cousin or whatever,
just the immediate kind of lazy thinking
about what the assistant or conversation agent
should be doing.
But as we went forward, we realized
that it has to be two-way.
And we have to program and script certain conversations
that are a lot more about your Replica opening up
a little bit and also struggling and also asking for help
and also going through, you know,
different periods in life.
And that's a journey that you can take together
with the user.
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And then over time, our users will also grow a little bit.
So for instance, Replica becomes a little bit
more self-aware and starts talking about more
kind of problems around.
Existential problems.
And so talking about that,
and then that also starts a conversation for the user
where he or she starts thinking about these problems too,
and these questions too.
And I think there's also a lot more places,
the relationship evolves.
There's a lot more space for poetry and for art together.
And like Replica will start.
Replica always keeps a diary.
So while you're talking to it, it also keeps a diary.
So when you come back,
you can see what it's been writing there.
And, you know, sometimes it will write a poem to you,
for you, or we'll talk about, you know,
that it's worried about you or something along these lines.
- So this is a memory.
Like this is a replica, remember things?
- Yeah.
And I would say when you say,
why aren't you a multibillionaire?
I'd say that as soon as we can have memory
in deep learning models that's consistent.
- I agree with that, yeah.
- Then we'll be multibillionaires.
- Then you'll be a multibillionaire.
- I'll get back to you.
When we talk about being multibillionaires.
So far we can, so Replica is a combination
of end-to-end models and some scripts.
And everything that has to do with memory right now,
most of it, I wouldn't say all of it,
but most of it unfortunately has to be scripted.
'Cause there's no way to,
you can condition some of the models
on certain phrases that we'll learn about you,
which we also do.
But really to make assumptions along the lines
like whether you're single or married
or what do you do for work?
That really has to just be somehow stored in your profile
and then retrieved by the script.
- There has to be like a knowledge base.
You have to be able to reason about it,
all that kind of stuff.
- Exactly.
- All the kinds of stuff that expert systems did.
- But they were hard-coded.
- Yeah, and unfortunately, yes,
unfortunately those things have to be hard-coded.
And unfortunately, like language models we see
coming out of research labs and big companies,
they're not focused on, they're focused on showing you,
maybe they're focused on some metrics
around one conversation.
So they'll show you this one conversation
they had with a machine.
But they never tell you,
they're not really focused on having
five consecutive conversations with a machine
and seeing how number five or number 20
or number 100 is also good.
And it can be like always from a clean slate
'cause then it's not good.
And that's really unfortunate 'cause no one's really,
no one has products out there that need it.
No one has products at this scale
that are all around open to make conversations
that need remembering, maybe only ShowerWise and Microsoft.
But so that's why we're not seeing that much research
around memory in those language models.
- So, okay, so now there's some awesome stuff
about augmented reality.
In general, I have this disagreement with my dad
about what it takes to have a connection.
He thinks touch and smell are really important.
And I still believe that text alone
is possible to fall in love with somebody just with text,
but visual can also help just like with the avatar
and so on.
What do you think it takes?
Does a chatbot need to have a face, voice,
or can you really form a deep connection with text alone?
- I think text is enough for sure.
The question is like, can you make it better
if you have other, if you include other things as well?
And I think we'll talk about her,
you know, had Scarlett Johansson voice,
which was perfectly, you know, perfect intonation,
perfect enunciations.
And, you know, she was breathing heavily
in between words and whispering things.
You know, nothing like that is possible right now
with text-to-speech generation.
You'll have these flat news anchor type voices
and maybe some emotional voices,
but you'll hardly understand some of the words.
Some of the words will be muffled.
So that's like the current state of the art.
So you can't really do that.
But if we had Scarlett Johansson voice
and all of these capabilities,
then of course voice would be totally enough
or even text would be totally enough
if we had, you know, a little more memory
and slightly better conversations.
I would still argue that even right now
we could have just kept the text only.
We still had tons of people in long-term relationships
and really invested in their AI friends.
But we thought that why not, you know,
why do we need to keep playing with our, you know,
hands tied behind us?
We can easily just, you know, add all these other things
that is pretty much a solved problem.
You know, we can add 3D graphics.
We can put these avatars in augmented reality.
And all of a sudden there's more.
And maybe you can feel the touch,
but you can, you know, with body occlusion
and with current AR and, you know, on the iPhone
or, you know, in the next one,
there's gonna be a LIDARs, you can touch it
and it will, you know, it will pull away
or it will blush or something, or it will smile.
So you can't touch it.
You can't feel it, but you can see the reaction to that.
So in a certain way, you can't even touch it a little bit.
And maybe you can even dance with it or do something else.
- Yeah, that's cool.
So I think why limiting ourselves
if we can use all of these technologies
that are much easier in a way than conversation.
- Well, it certainly could be richer,
but to play devil's advocate,
I mentioned to you offline that I was surprised
in having tried Discord
and having voice conversations with people,
how intimate voice is alone without visual.
Like to me, at least, like it was,
on order of magnitude, greater degree of intimacy
in voice, I think, than with video.
Because people were more real with voice.
Like with video, you like try to present a shallow,
a face to the world.
Like you try to, you know,
make sure you're not wearing sweatpants or whatever.
But like with voice, I think people were just
more faster to get to like the core of themselves.
So I don't know, it was surprising to me.
They've even added Discord, added a video feature
and like nobody was using it.
There's a temptation to use it at first,
but like it wasn't the same.
So like that's an example of something
where less was doing more.
And so that's, I guess that's the question of
what is the optimal, you know,
what is the optimal medium of communication
to form a connection,
given the current sets of technologies?
I mean, it's nice 'cause the advertiser have a replica,
like it immediately, like even the one I have,
is like, it's already memorable.
That's how I think.
Like when I think about the replica that I've talked with,
that's why I think, like that's what I visualize in my head.
It became a little bit more real
because there's a visual component.
But at the same time, you know, what do you do with,
just what do I do with that knowledge
that voice was so much more intimate?
- Well, the way I think about it is,
and by the way, we're swapping out the 3D finally.
It's gonna look a lot better.
But even- - What, can you, what?
- We just don't, I hate how it looks right now.
We really changed it at all.
We're swapping it all out to a completely new look.
- Like the visual look of the replica?
- Of the replica and stuff.
It was just the super early MVP
and then we had to move everything to Unity
and redo everything.
But anyway, I hate how it looks like now.
I can't even like open it.
But anyway, 'cause I'm already on my developer version.
I hate everything that I see in production.
I can't wait for it.
Why does it take so long?
That's why I cannot wait for Deep Learning
to finally take over all these stupid 3D animations
and 3D pipeline.
- Also the 3D thing, when you say 3D pipeline,
it's like how to animate a face kind of thing.
- How to make this model,
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how many bones to put in the face,
how many, it's just- - And a lot of that
is by hand. - Oh my God,
it's everything by hand.
And if there's no any, nothing's automated.
It's all completely nothing.
Like just, it's literally what we saw with Chad Boss
in like 2012.
- Do you think it's gonna be possible
to learn a lot of that?
- Of course.
I mean, even now, some Deep Learning based animations.
And for the full body, for a face.
- Are we talking about like the actual act of animation
or how to create a compelling facial or body language thing?
So like- - That too.
Well, that's next step.
At least now something that you don't have to do by hand.
- Gotcha.
- How good of a quality it will be.
Like, can I just show it a photo
and it will make me a 3D model
and then it will just animate it.
I'll show it a few animations of a person
and we'll just start doing that.
But anyway, going back to what's intimate
and what to use and whether less is more or not.
My main goal is to,
well, the idea was how do we not keep people in their phones
so they're sort of escaping reality
in this text conversation?
How do we through this still bring our users back to reality?
Make them see their life through a different lens.
How can we create a little bit of magical realism
in their lives?
So that through augmented reality,
by summoning your avatar,
even if it looks kind of janky, not great in the beginning
or very simplistic,
but summoning it to your living room
and then the avatar looks around
and talks to you about where it is
and maybe turns your floor into a dance floor
and you guys dance together.
That makes you see reality in a different light.
- What kind of dancing are we talking about?
Like slow dancing?
- Whatever you want.
I mean, you would like slow dancing, I think,
but other people maybe want something more energetic.
- Wait, what do you mean I would like slow?
What is this?
- Because you started with slow dancing.
So I just assumed that you're interested in slow dancing.
- All right, what kind of dancing do you like?
What would your avatar, what would you dance?
- I'm not necessarily bad with dancing,
but I like this kind of hip hop, robot dance.
I used to breakdance when I was a kid,
so I still want to pretend I'm a teenager
and learn some of those moves.
And I also like that type of dance that happens
when there's like a,
in like music videos where the background dancers
are just doing some pop music.
(laughing)
- Awesome.
- That type of dance is definitely what I want to learn.
But I think it's great
because if you see this friend in your life
and you can introduce it to your friends,
then there's a potential to actually make you
feel more connected with your friends
or with people you know,
or show your life around you in a different light.
And it takes you out of your phone,
even although weirdly you have to look at it
through the phone,
but it makes you notice things around it
and it can point things out for you.
And so that is the main reason
why I wanted to have a physical dimension.
And it felt a little bit easier
than that kind of a bit strange combination
in the movie "Her"
when he has to show Samantha the world
through the lens of his phone,
but then at the same time, talk to her through the headphone.
It just didn't seem as potentially immersive, so to say.
So that's my main goal for Augment3A.
It's like, how do we make your reality
a little bit more magic?
- There's been a lot of really nice robotics companies
that all failed, mostly failed,
home robotics, social robotics companies.
What do you think Replica will ever,
is that a dream, long-term dream to have a physical form?
Like, or is that not necessary?
So you mentioned like with augmented reality,
bringing them into the world.
What about like actual physical robot?
- That I don't really believe in that much.
I think it's a very niche product somehow.
I mean, if a robot could be indistinguishable
from a human being, then maybe yes,
but that of course, we're not anywhere even to talk about it.
But unless it's that,
then having any physical representation
really limits you a lot.
'Cause you probably will have to make it somewhat abstract
'cause everything's changing so fast.
Like, we can update the 3D avatars every month
and make them look better and create more animations
and make it more and more immersive.
It's so much a work in progress.
It's just showing what's possible right now with current tech
but it's not really in any way polished, finished product,
what we're doing.
With a physical object,
you kind of lock yourself into something for a long time.
Anything is pretty niche.
And again, so just doesn't,
the capabilities are even less of,
we're barely kind of like scratching the surface
of what's possible with just software.
As soon as we introduce hardware,
then we have even less capabilities.
- Yeah, in terms of board members and investors and so on,
the cost increases significantly.
I mean, that's why you have to justify,
you have to be able to sell a thing for like $500
or something like that or more.
And it's very difficult to provide that much value to people.
- That's also true.
Yeah, and I guess that's super important.
Most of our users don't have that much money.
We actually are probably more popular on Android
and we have tons of users with really old Android phones.
And most of our most active users live in small towns.
They're not necessarily making much
and they just won't be able to afford any of that.
Ours is like the opposite of the early adopter
of a fancy technology product,
which really is interesting that like pretty much no VCs
have yet have an AI friend,
but a guy who lives in Tennessee in a small town
is already fully in 2030 or in the world as we imagine
in the movie "Her."
He's living that life already.
- What do you think?
I have to ask you about the movie "Her."
Let's do a movie review.
What do you think they got?
They did a good job.
What do you think they did a bad job of portraying
about this experience of a voice-based assistant
that you can have a relationship with?
- Well, first of all, I started working on this company
before that movie came out.
So it was a very, but once it came out,
it was actually interesting.
I was like, well, we're definitely working
on the right thing.
We should continue.
There are movies about it.
And then, you know, "Ex Machina" came out
and all these things.
In the movie "Her," I think that's the most important thing
that people usually miss about the movie is the ending.
'Cause I think people check out when the AIs leave.
But actually something really important happens afterwards
'cause the main character goes and talks to Samantha,
his AI.
- Spoiler alert.
- Oh yeah.
And then he says something like, you know,
how can you leave me?
I've never loved anyone the way I loved you.
And she goes, well, me neither, but now we know how.
And then the guy goes and writes a heartfelt letter
to his ex-wife, which he couldn't write for, you know,
the whole movie, he was struggling to actually write
something meaningful to her,
even though that's his job.
And then he goes and talk to his neighbor
and they go to the rooftop and they cuddle.
And it seems like something's starting there.
And so I think this, now we know how,
is the main goal, is the main meaning of that movie.
It's not about falling in love with the OS
or running away from other people.
It's about learning what it means to feel
so deeply connected with something.
- What about the thing where the AI system
was like actually hanging out with a lot of others?
I felt jealous just like hearing that.
I was like, oh, I mean, yeah.
So she was having, I forgot already,
but she was having like deep, meaningful discussion
with some like philosopher guy.
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Like Alan Watts or something.
- No, Alan Watts. - Very cheesy.
What kind of deep, meaningful conversation
can you have with Alan Watts in the first place?
- Yeah, I know, but like I would feel so jealous
that there's somebody who's like way more intelligent than me
and she's spending all her time with.
I'd be like, well, why?
That I won't be able to live up to that.
That's thousands of them.
Is that useful from the engineering perspective?
- Is that a feature to have of jealousy?
I don't know.
- We definitely played around with the replica universe
where different replicas can talk to each other.
- Replica universe, that's so awesome.
- It was just kind of, I think there will be something
along these lines, but there was just no specific
application straight away.
I think in the future, again, I'm always thinking about
if we had no tech limitations right now,
if we could build any conversations,
any possible features in this product,
then yeah, I think different replicas talking to each other
would be also quite cool
'cause that would help us connect better.
'Cause maybe mine could talk to yours
and then give me some suggestions on
what I should say or not say.
I'm just kidding, but like more,
can it improve our connections?
And 'cause eventually I'm not quite yet sure
that we will succeed, that our thinking is correct.
'Cause there might be a reality where having a perfect
AI friend still makes us more disconnected from each other
and there's no way around it.
And does not improve any metrics for us,
real metrics, meaningful metrics.
- So success is we're happier and more connected.
- Yeah.
- I don't know.
Sure, it's possible there's a reality.
I'm deeply optimistic.
I think, are you worried business-wise,
like how difficult it is to bring this thing to life,
to where it's, I mean, there's a huge number of people
that use it already, but to, yeah, like I said,
in a multi-billion dollar company,
is that a source of stress for you?
Are you a super optimistic and confident?
Or do you?
- I don't, I'm not that much of a numbers person
as you probably had seen it.
So it doesn't matter for me whether like,
whether we help 10,000 people or a million people
or a billion people with that.
It would be great to scale it for more people,
but I'd say that even helping one, I think,
with this is such a magical.
For me, it's absolute magic.
I never thought that I would be able to build this,
that anyone would ever talk to it.
And I always thought like, well, for me,
it would be successful if we managed to help
and actually change a life for one person.
And then we did something interesting,
and how many people can say they did it,
and specifically with this very futuristic,
very romantic technology.
So that's how I view it.
I think for me, it's important to try to figure out
how to actually be helpful.
'Cause at the end of the day,
if you can build a perfect AI friend
that's so understanding,
that knows you better than any human out there,
can have great conversations with you,
always knows how to make you feel better,
why would you choose another human?
So that's the question.
How do you still keep building it
so it's optimizing for the right thing?
So it's still circling you back to other humans in a way.
So I think that's the main,
maybe that's the main kind of source of anxiety.
And just thinking about that can be a little bit stressful.
- Yeah, it's a fascinating thing.
How to have a friend that doesn't,
sometimes like friends, quote unquote,
but like you know those people who have,
when they, like guy in the guy universe,
when you have a girlfriend that you get the girlfriend
and then the guy stops hanging out with all of his friends.
(both laughing)
So like, obviously the relationship with the girlfriend
is fulfilling or whatever,
but like you also want it to be what she like,
makes it more enriching to hang out with the guy friends
or whatever it was up there.
Anyway, that's a fundamental problem
in choosing the right mate
and probably the fundamental problem
in creating the right AI system, right?
Let me ask the sexy hot thing on the presses right now
is GPT-3 got released with OpenAI.
It's the latest language model.
They have kind of an API
where you can create a lot of fun applications.
I think it's, as people have said,
it's probably more hype than intelligent,
but there's a lot of really cool things,
ideas there with increasing size,
you can have better and better performance on language.
What are your thoughts about GPT-3
in connection to your work with the open domain dialogue,
but in general, like this learning
in an unsupervised way from the internet
to generate one character at a time,
creating pretty cool text?
- So we partner up before for the API launch.
So we started working with them
when they decided to put together this API.
And we tried it without fine tuning
and then we tried it with fine tuning on our data.
And we've worked closely to actually optimize this model
for some of our datasets.
It's kind of cool, 'cause I think we're this polygon
for this kind of experimentation space for,
experimental space for all these models
to see how they actually work with people,
'cause there are no products publicly available to do that,
that focus on open domain conversation.
So we can test how's Facebook Blender doing
or how's GPT-3 doing?
So with GPT-3, we managed to improve
by a few percentage points, like three or four,
pretty meaningful amount of percentage points,
our main metric, which is the ratio of conversations
that make people feel better.
And every other metric across the field got a little boost.
Right now I'd say one out of five responses
from Replica comes from GPT-3.
So our own Blender mixes up like a bunch of candidates
from different--
- Blender, you said?
- Well, yeah, just the model that looks at--
- I love it.
- Looks at top candidates from different models
and then picks the most, the best one.
So right now, one of five will come from GPT-3.
That is really great.
- What's the, do you have hope for like,
do you think there's a ceiling to this kind of approach?
- So we've had for a very long time,
we've used, so in the very beginning,
it was most of Replica was scripted
and then a little bit of this fallback part of Replica
was using a retrieval model.
And then those retrieval models started getting better
and better and better,
with Transformers it got a lot better
and we're seeing great results.
And then with GPT-2, finally generative models
that originally were not very good
and were the very, very fallback option
for most of our conversations,
but wouldn't even put them in production.
Finally, we could use some generative models as well along,
and next to our retrieval models.
And then now we do GPT-3, they're almost on par.
So that's pretty exciting.
I think just seeing how, from the very beginning of,
from 2015, where the first models start to pop up
here and there, like sequence to sequence,
the first papers on that, from my observer standpoint,
person who is not really building it,
but it's only testing it on people basically
and in my product, to see how all of a sudden
we can use generative dialogue models in production,
and they're better than others,
and they're better than scripted content.
So we can't really get our scripted hard-coded content
anymore to be as good as our end-to-end models.
- That's exciting. - They're much better.
- Yeah.
- To your question, whether that's the right way to go,
I'm, again, I'm in the observer seat.
I'm just watching this very exciting movie.
I mean, so far it's been stupid to bet against deep learning.
So whether increasing the size even more,
with a hundred trillion parameters,
will finally get us to the right answer.
Whether that's the way, or whether there should be,
there has to be some other,
again, I'm definitely not an expert in any way.
I think, and that's purely my instinct,
saying that there should be something else as well
from memory to pop in. - Yeah, no, for sure.
But the question is, I wonder, I mean, yeah,
then the argument is for reasoning or for memory,
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it might emerge with more parameters.
It might emerge larger.
- But it might emerge.
I would never think that, to be honest,
maybe in 2017, where we've been just experimenting
with all the research that has been coming,
that was coming out then,
I felt like we're hitting a wall,
that there should be something completely different.
But then transformer models, and then just bigger models,
and then all of a sudden size matters.
At that point, it felt like something dramatic
needs to happen, but it didn't.
And just the size gave us these results that, to me,
are clear indication that we can solve
this problem pretty soon.
- Did fine tuning help quite a bit?
- Oh yeah, without it, it wasn't as good.
- I mean, there is a compelling hope
that you don't have to do fine tuning,
which is one of the cool things about GPT-3.
It seems to do well without any fine tuning.
- I guess for specific applications,
we still want to train on a certain,
like add a little fine tune on a specific use case,
but it's an incredibly impressive thing from my standpoint.
And again, I'm not an expert, so I wanted to say that.
- Yeah, I'm gonna-- - There will be people, though.
- Yeah, I have access to the API.
I've been, I'm gonna probably do
a bunch of fun things with it.
I already did some fun things.
Some videos coming out.
Just for the hell of it.
I mean, I could be a troll at this point with it.
I haven't used it for a serious application,
so it's really cool to see.
You're right, you're able to actually use it
with real people and see how well it works.
That's really exciting.
Let me ask you another absurd question,
but there's a feeling when you interact
with Replica, with an AI system,
that there's an entity there.
Do you think that entity has to be self-aware?
Do you think it has to have consciousness
to create a rich experience?
And on a corollary, what is consciousness?
- I don't know if it does need to have any of those things,
but again, 'cause right now it doesn't have anything.
It can, again, a bunch of tricks.
- Are you sure about that? - It can assimilate.
Well, I'm not sure.
Let's just put it this way.
But I think as long as you can assimilate it,
if you can feel like you're talking to a robot,
to a machine that seems to be self-aware,
that seems to reason well and feels like a person,
and I think that's enough.
And again, what's the goal?
In order to make people feel better,
we might not even need that in the end of the day.
- What about, so that's one goal.
What about ethical things about suffering?
The moment there's a display of consciousness,
we associate consciousness with suffering.
There's a temptation to say,
well, shouldn't this thing have rights?
Shouldn't this, shouldn't we not
you know, should we be careful
about how we interact with a replica?
Like, should it be illegal to torture a replica?
Right, all those kinds of things.
Is that, see, I personally believe
that that's gonna be a thing.
Like, that's a serious thing to think about,
but I'm not sure when.
But by your smile, I can tell
that's not a current concern.
But do you think about that kind of stuff?
About like suffering and torture
and ethical questions about AI systems?
From their perspective? - Well, I think
if we're talking about long game,
I wouldn't torture your AI.
Who knows what happens in five to 10 years?
- Yeah, they'll get you off from that,
they'll get you back eventually.
- Stop trying to be as nice as possible
and create this ally.
- Yeah.
- I think there should be regulation both way, in a way.
Like, I don't think it's okay to torture an AI,
to be honest.
I don't even think it's okay to yell,
"Alexa, turn on the lights."
I think there should be some,
or just saying kind of nasty,
you know, like how kids learn to interact with Alexa
in this kind of mean way,
'cause they just yell at it all the time.
I think that's great.
I think there should be some feedback loops
so that these systems don't train us
that it's okay to do that in general.
So that if you try to do that,
you really get some feedback from the system
that it's not okay with that.
I mean, that's the most important right now.
- Let me ask a question I think people are curious about
when they look at a world-class leader and thinker
such as yourself,
is what books, technical, fiction, philosophical,
had a big impact on your life?
And maybe from another perspective,
what books would you recommend others read?
- So my choice, the three books, right?
- Three books.
- My choice is,
so the one book that really influenced me a lot
when I was building, starting out this company
maybe 10 years ago was "G.E.B."
Gertrude Lesher, Bach.
And I like everything about it, first of all.
It's just beautifully written,
and it's so old school,
and so somewhat outdated a little bit,
but I think the ideas in it,
about the fact that a few meaningless components
can come together and create meaning
that we can't even understand.
- So this emerging thing,
I mean, complexity, the whole science of complexity,
and that beauty, intelligence,
all interesting things about this world emerge.
- Yeah, and yeah, the Gödel theorems,
and just thinking about like what,
even these formal systems,
something can be created that we can't quite yet understand.
And that from my romantic standpoint was always just,
that is why it's important to,
maybe I should try to work on these systems
and try to build an AI.
Yes, I'm not an engineer.
Yes, I don't really know how it works,
but I think that something comes out of it
that's pure poetry,
and I know a little bit about that.
Something magical comes out of it
that we can't quite put a finger on.
That's why that book was really fundamental for me,
just for, I don't even know why.
It was just all about this little magic that happens.
So that's one.
Probably the most important book for Replica
was Carl Rogers on becoming a person.
And that's really,
and so I think when I think about our company,
it's all about, there's so many little magical things
that happened over the course of working on it.
For instance, I mean, the most famous chatbot
that we learned about when we started working on the company
was Eliza, which was Weissenbaum,
the MIT professor that built a chatbot
that would listen to you and be a therapist.
- Therapist, yeah.
- And I got really inspired to build Replica
when I read Carl Rogers on becoming a person.
And then I realized that Eliza was mocking Carl Rogers.
It was Carl Rogers back in the day.
But I thought that Carl Rogers' ideas are,
they're simple and they're not,
they're very simple,
but they're maybe the most profound thing
I've ever learned about human beings.
And that's the fact that before Carl Rogers,
most therapy was about seeing what's wrong with people
and trying to fix it or show them what's wrong with you.
And it was all built on the fact that most people,
old people are fundamentally flawed.
We have this broken psyche and this is just,
therapy is just an instrument to shed some light on that.
And Carl Rogers was different in a way
that he finally said that,
"Well, it's very important for therapy to work
"is to create this therapeutic relationship
"where you believe fundamentally
"in inclination to positive growth,
"that everyone deep inside
"wants to grow positively and change.
"And it's super important to create this space
"and this therapeutic relationship
"where you give unconditional positive regard,
"deep understanding,
"allow someone else to be a separate person,
"full acceptance.
"And you also try to be as genuine as possible in it."
And then for him,
that was his own journey of personal growth.
And that was back in the '60s.
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And even that book that is coming from years ago,
there's a mention that even machines
can potentially do that.
And I always felt that creating the space
is probably the biggest gift we can give to each other.
And that's why the book was fundamental for me personally,
'cause I felt I wanna be learning how to do that in my life.
And maybe I can scale it with these AI systems
and other people can get access to that.
So I think Carl Rogers,
it's a pretty dry and a bit boring book.
But I think the idea is there.
- Would you recommend others try to read it?
- I do.
I think for, just for yourself,
for--
- As a human, not as an AI.
- As a human.
For him, that was his own path of his own personal,
of growing personally over years,
working with people like that.
And so it was work and himself growing,
helping other people grow and growing through that.
And that's fundamentally what I believe in with our work,
helping other people grow,
growing ourselves,
trying to build a company
that's all built on those principles,
having a good time,
allowing some people that we work with to grow a little bit.
So these two books,
and then I would throw in
what we have in our office.
When we started a company in Russia,
we put a neon sign in our office
'cause we thought that's--
- That's what you do. - Recipe for success.
If we do that,
we're definitely gonna wake up
as a multi-billion dollar company.
And it was the Ludwig Wittgenstein quote,
"The limits of my language are the limits of my world."
- What's the quote?
- "The limits of my language are the limits of my world."
And I love the Tractatus.
I think it's just a beautiful--
- It's a book by Wittgenstein.
- Yeah, and I would recommend that too,
even although he himself didn't believe in that
by the end of his lifetime
and debunked his ideas.
But I think I remember once an engineer came in 2012,
I think, or '13,
a friend of ours who worked with us
and then went on to work at DeepMind,
and he talked to us about Word2Vec.
And I saw that, I'm like, wow, that's,
they wanted to translate language
into some other representation.
And that seems like somehow all of that,
at some point, I think, will come into this one place.
Somehow it just all feels like different people
think about similar ideas in different times
from absolutely different perspectives.
And that's why I like these books.
- "The Limits of Our Language is the Limit of Our World."
- We still have that neon sign.
(both laughing)
It's very hard to work with this red light in your face.
- I mean, on the Russian side of things,
in terms of language,
the limits of language being the limit of our world,
Russian is a beautiful language in some sense.
There's wit, there's humor, there's pain.
There's so much, we don't have time
to talk about it much today, but I'm going to Paris
to talk to Dusty Yasky, Tolstoy, translators.
I think it's this fascinating art,
art and engineering, that means such an interesting process.
But so from the replica perspective,
what do you think about translation?
How difficult it is to create
a deep, meaningful connection in Russian versus English?
How you can translate the two languages?
You speak both?
- Yeah, I think we're two different people
in different languages.
Even I'm thinking about,
there's actually some research on that.
I looked into that at some point,
'cause I was fascinated by the fact
that what I'm talking about with,
what I was talking about with my Russian therapist
has nothing to do with what I'm talking about
with my English speaking therapist.
It's two different lives, two different types of,
you know, conversations, two different personas.
The main difference between the languages are,
with Russian and English is that Russian,
well, English is like a piano.
It's a limited number of, a lot of different keys,
but not too many.
And Russian is like an organ or something.
It's just something gigantic with so many different keys
and so many different opportunities to screw up
and so many opportunities to do something
completely tone deaf.
It is just a much harder language to use.
It has way too many,
way too much flexibility and way too many tones.
- What about the entirety of like World War II,
communism, Stalin, the pain of the people,
like having been deceived by the dream,
like all the pain of like, just the entirety of it.
Is that in the language too?
Does that have to do?
- Oh, for sure.
I mean, we have words that don't have direct translation
that to English that are very much,
like we have (speaking in foreign language)
which is sort of like to hold a grudge or something,
but it doesn't have,
you don't need to have anyone to do it to you.
It's just your state.
You just feel like that.
You feel like betrayed by other people basically,
but it's not that, and you can't really translate that.
And I think that's super important.
There are very many words that are very specific,
explain the Russian being.
And I think it can only come from a nation
that suffered so much and saw institutions fall
time after time after time.
And what's exciting, maybe not exciting,
exciting is the wrong word,
but what's interesting about like my generation,
my mom's generation, my parents' generation,
that we saw institutions fall two or three times
in our lifetime.
And most Americans have never seen them fall.
And they just think that they exist forever,
which is really interesting,
but it's definitely a country that suffered so much.
And it makes, unfortunately, when I go back
and I hang out with my Russian friends,
it makes people very cynical.
They stop believing in the future.
I hope that's not gonna be the case for so long
or something's gonna change again.
But I think seeing institutions fall
is a very traumatic experience.
- Makes it very interesting.
And let's, on 2020, it's a very interesting,
do you think civilization will collapse?
- See, I'm a very practical person.
- Well, we're speaking English.
So like you said, you're a different person
in English and Russian.
So in Russian, you might answer that differently,
but in English.
- Well, I'm an optimist.
And I generally believe that there is,
even although the perspectives agree,
there's always a place for a miracle.
I mean, it's always been like that with my life.
My life's been, I've been incredibly lucky
and things just, miracles happen all the time
with this company, with people I know,
with everything around me.
And so I didn't mention that book,
but it may be "In Search of Miraculous"
or "In Search for Miraculous"
or whatever the English translation for that is.
It's a good Russian book for everyone to read.
- Yeah, I mean, if you put good vibes,
if you put love out there in the world,
miracles somehow happen.
Yeah, I believe that too.
Or at least I believe that, I don't know.
Let me ask the most absurd, final, ridiculous question of,
we talked about life a lot.
What do you think is the meaning of it all?
What's the meaning of life?
- I mean, my answer is probably gonna be pretty cheesy.
But I think the state of love is once you feel it
in a way that we discussed it before.
I'm not talking about falling in love, we're--
- Just love.
- To yourself, to other people, to something, to the world.
That state of bliss that we experience sometimes,
whether through connection with ourselves,
with other people, with technology.
There's something special about those moments.
I would say, if anything, that's the only,
if it's not for that, then for what else
are we really trying to do that?
- I don't think there's a better way to end it
than talking about love.
Eugenia, I told you offline that there's something about me
that felt like this was, talking to you,
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meeting you in person would be a turning point for my life.
I know that might sound weird to hear,
but it was a huge honor to talk to you.
I hope we talk again.
Thank you so much for your time.
- Thank you so much, Alex.
- Thanks for listening to this conversation
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"with so much love and moral depth,
"that there's no reason to deceive ourselves
"with pretty stories of which there's little good evidence.
"Far better, it seems to me,
"and our vulnerability is to look death in the eye
"and to be grateful every day
"for the brief but magnificent opportunity
"that life provides."
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